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Shoudl you forgive a cheating spouse and remain with them after they have cheated ? This hard to do in this world of AIDS and disease..... please give me some of your views |
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<HTML>Misty,
Wihtout getting too personal my wife and I have been married for over 21 years, we have three children and three grandchildren - There was some extra marital activity on both our parts early on in our marriage due to the fact that we were married at a young age. It can be worked through and no Misty not all "cheaters" continue doing it.
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Ron (logic) |
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<HTML>Danyel,
It is impossible to say yes or no to your question - circumstances may dictate one action or another. As a general however there are some things to conisder -
1) Is he/she truly sorry and willing to partake in some form of marriage counseling?
2) Can the one who was cheated on truly forgive the cheater?
3) Sometimes the circumstances that led to the violation may need to be taken into consideration more than the actual act itself.
There are of course other things and each circumstance is different but these are the main ones. If you would like to talk about this privately I am available for Pastoral counseling - [email protected]
Peace,
Ron |
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i agree. because what troubles me is that they would do that in the first place. This is just my opinion. forgive them and listen for Gods voice on what to do. |
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Let God lead you in this
one. I've been there and know the pain and it's not a pleasant thing for anyone
to have to deal with. I forgave my ex-husband at the time we were married, but
it didn't make a difference. He went out and did it again. If he is willing to
seek help from the Lord for this mistake and is really and truly repentful then
yea give it another chance. If he or she really love you and sees the pain that
this has caused you, not to mention the pain in the Lord for hurting one of His
own, then they will need to seek in prayer the forgiveness from the Lord and
you. It's hard to forgive, but the Lord has forgiven us our sins of many
kinds. Just because you forgive does not mean you have to forget. But it's a
start if you want this relationship to continue. Forgetting takes a long time
and you'll need the time to heal from this. Just keep praying for the Lords
guidance and He will give it to you.
Biblebutterfly7
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I have been maried for 38 years now, and my hasband cheated on my all my life, now we are getting a divorce, finaly, he is going out with a 25 year old girl, he is 58  . When man or women cheat they never stop, if you fogive once you will end up forgiving him or her many times, so do yourself a favor and think about it, and remember Jesus is for us, reed Mat 19-9 |
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I once had a spouse show up pregnant by another guy. Then she blamed the pregnancy on me. She was also an adventist, but not real. I would suggest that you forgive this person for their mistake, but find someone else who could be truthfull with you. Your personal respect and integrity cannot be compromised. Once a cheater, always a cheater. --Hans-solo |
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I know for a fact once a cheater ...doesn't always mean always a cheater!! We all can make mistakes but the Lord has worked in my life and I have a husband who forgives.....So please dont say if they do it once they will do it again, not EVERYONE will...GBU in your life.
CandyPhilippians 4:13 >From: "7th Day Adventist Chatroom" < [email protected]> >Reply-To: "7th Day Adventist Chatroom" < [email protected]> >To: "7th Day Adventist Chatroom" < [email protected]> >Subject: Re: Should I forgive a cheater ???? >Date: Sun, 27 Mar 2005 17:25:51 -0800 > |
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| | | From: Lam75 | Sent: 4/4/2005 1:37 PM |
Cheating is the only reason God approves of divorce. I have never been married so my advice is not based on expertise. Maybe you could try to figure out what the problem was and why he/she cheated and try to work it out. If you are worried about HIV, and other STDs, then have him/her be tested for it. Once he/she tests for STDs, make him/her promise to end any outside relationship (that is if you can trust he/she will keep his/her word). Personally, if anyone cheats on me, then I just leave without saying a word, however, once again, I have never been married, so it might be different if it were my wife. I realy do not know. |
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Misty I have to agree what Danyel it is impossible to say yes or no to you question about a cheater. But i'll keep praying for you. Molar_pegasus1  |
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To Everyone You might wanna keep this in mind: When a man or his wife cheats there is a saying that go once your a cheater your always a cheater . You might as well get rid of your cheater. and start fresh again. peace out! molar_pegasus1 |
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Well told my husband if he ever cheated on me I would forgive him, but if he ever did it again I would leave. we were together for 10 yrs without him or I cheating. We separated for a differnt reason, it had to due with problems stemming from childhood and control issue's. But it always made me feel good to know we can still look back & know we loved each other in the marital state God had for us. P.S. question is your spouse willing to go for couseling? Donna |
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