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| | From:  tall-mary (Original Message) | Sent: 1/3/2005 3:45 AM |
Many singles desire a mate. Some feel that they "need" a mate. And there are those who are searching actively. Assuming we are Christians, and actively involved in nurturing our personal relationships with Christ...we need to qualify whether we're ready for courtship & marriage. All things "are done decently & in-order" as far as God is concerned, and here are some questions that can help us recognize whether we're ready.
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* Am I truly & completely single?
* Is my personal relationship with Christ top priority/ thriving?
* Am I involved in the life, flow & ministry of the Body at a church?
* Do I desire a mate soley so that I can escape having to deal with loneliness, poverty/low income, or sex drive, or am I spiritually, emotionally, financially , & mentally fit -- ready to meet the challenges of a relationship leading to marriage?
* Have I learned to relate with others well, and maintain my existing relationships with success, or do I need assistance -- such as counseling, self-help books & more experience in socialization?
* Am I grounded & schooled enough spiritually, to be a spiritual support & benefit to another?
* Does my spiritual criteria for a mate align with what God wants?
* Are there things or issues in my life I need to resolve or take care of before entertaining the idea of courtship? Am I ready for a committed relationship?
* Does the person I'm interested in, share the same beliefs & values I have about marriage & raising children?
* Do I respect & embrace the things God has said about sexual conduct & loving, and marriage?
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Before we just blindly jump into the waters of courtship, we need to make sure we are ready, and be willing to take an honest look at ourselves, because marriage is a serious commitment, and not to be entered into lightly or out of desperation, especially where children will be involved. We need to begin loving & caring for our future children before we even have them. If we think we may be "settling" for less than what God would want for us, we need to look honestly & closely at the reasons why. If we can answer the above questions positively & sincerely, we have a better chance for enjoying a lasting marriage and/or family that will thrive & benefit all involved. |
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Is there anyone out there interesting in chatting via e-mail? My name is Elsie I`m 54 and from Quito Ecuador. I have been a Seventh-Day Adventist all my life. If you are interested in having a friend in South America be my e-mail pal and drop me a line at [email protected] . God Bless! |
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Thank-You Tall Mary for giving our singles such EXCELLENT counsil on dating. I wish I had heard this counsil while I was still in the dating seen. It would have spared me many years of pain and frustration. It would have prevented me from hurting others and maybe disrupting their chances to meet the single person that was better suited to them. One thing I will say though is that when I decieded at a young age to keep my chastity as a young man, and to protect the chastity of the women I was dating, it was greatly rewarded by God. He clearly revealed who was trustworthy for a life time marrige commitment, as well as protected and guided my courtship with the woman I eventually married. Not only did God reward me in providing a wife but has also blessed our "love life" immensly, I feel, because we waited untill after we we married. I see many friends and aquaintences who are getting older now with less options for dating and marriage and I know that one of the major reasons for this unmarried class is because of pre-marital sex with their dates. This pre-marital adultery leads to a lack of ability to respect and commint to one-another! Humble oppinions from an unprofitable servant. Craig  |
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| | | From: don | Sent: 4/4/2005 9:54 PM |
do they still have that shortwave radio station in quito? I used to live in
iowa and listened to shortwave sda programs in english from quito. don
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| From: lalonguita |
Is there anyone out there interesting in chatting via
e-mail? My name is Elsie I`m 54 and from Quito Ecuador. I have
been a Seventh-Day Adventist all my life.
If you are interested in having a friend in South
America be my e-mail pal and drop me a line at [email protected] .
God
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There are three wonderful books I would highly recommend on the subject of dating and courtship. 1. "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris 2. "Boy Meets Girl" by Joshua Harris 3. "Choosing God's Best" by Don Rannikar I challenge you to read them and apply the principles outlined in the books. They can be found in most Christian bookstores and the ABC. You can even buy from Ebay. Let God do the choosing of your mate! Blessings, Tree |
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