to me D/s and BDSM walk hand in hand - one the main course and one the dessert - giving me a fully balanced meal.... <o:p></o:p>

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i am hoping this makes sense to others.... <o:p></o:p>

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"It is easy to dom or submit for an evening of play"......the BDSM side is deeply personal and not just a seeking of thrills... i don’t connect with just Anybody... i don’t allow and i do mean allow just any Dominant to have that level of control over my being... i couldn’t go to a club or private party and just play my need goes deeper than that...... i have tried it and i am left wanting/needing more, unfulfilled, like i ate a banquet that had no flavour or sat in front of an orchestra i can’t hear or who are playing out of tune.....<o:p></o:p>

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i am not just a bedroom submissive.... i need more than BDSM alone.... BDSM is more than the kink and/or sex... it is an emotional response to the One i am playing with, it is another way to show the deepness of my submission/trust, it can be an outward pouring of love for the One i am with, it is the portrayal of my inner self - the self not acceptable to the nilla world..... <o:p></o:p>

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it is also an emotional and physical release for me - virtually on a spiritual level when the connection is right. ..... not just the actual scene but the aftercare time which is very important to me..... that can be very telling and can destroy all that has happened before it if not done well. <o:p></o:p>

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it is  about the control and exchange of power... same as the D/s day to day living.... with all the same qualities or to me it is meaningless... BDSM without an emotional connection is no better for me than a nilla one night shag. <o:p></o:p>

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