Alpha Antics: Shame, Shame, Shame This is a response to the last posts in the thread entitled The Shell Game.  That thread originated nearly a year ago but seems to have a life of its own as it continuues to attract responses.  Due to its length and volume, I thought it best to open a new thread.  (Click here if you wish to go to The Shell Game.) Dear blossom: Your outrage at the way you were treated by the Alphas is completely understandable and very well documented.  Pretending to perform a service by concocting this “clinical assessment�?is illegal, repugnant, and dangerous.  Lacking clinical backgrounds or credentials, both the alleged mentor and mentee have violated laws governing the practice of Psychology in their attempts to portray themselves as clinicians. Trying to publicly shame you by distributing this to others via E mail is certainly a form of harassment intent on belittling you.  Legitimate, professional, colleagues who work together within mental health agencies maintain confidentiality regarding their clients, even with each other. You may wish to forward this documentation to MSN in the form of a formal complaint of harassment. Understand that the alleged mentee failed miserably to provide a “clinical,�?“analytical,�?and “unemotional look�?at you devoid of sharing her “personal opinions.�?nbsp; Rather than representing even the slightest foundations of the roles and dynamics of mentoring the alleged mentor adopted and applied the tactic of psychological unfitness (popular throughout history with fascist and communist regimes) to demean, diminish, and �?in the curiously skewed language of the Alphas �?“dismember�?you. The self-described "living proof of the Alpha Dominant" and Chairman of the Alphas insinuates that you were treated this way in order to help you and that you did not want their brand of “help.�?nbsp; Rather than feeling ashamed, which appears to be the intent of his comments, take it as a compliment and a sign that you possess a greater degree of healthiness then the Alphas say you do or demonstrate themselves. Take for example how he admonishes you for suggesting that the Alphas wanted to get “rid�?of you and that you were not wanted in the room.  This is simply a projection of the tiresome squalling the Alphas have incessantly droned on about �?being disliked and not welcome in rooms throughout chat.  His shaming tirade continues with a litany of your alleged sins, claiming that your persistent, petulant, manipulative ways, and creating drama in the chat room are signs you need to grow up and accept responsibility for your actions.  It seems that you have been selected to wear the scarlet A when it might fit just as well if not better on others in the Home of the Alphas who are far more deserving but selectively overlooked by the Chairman.  It is evident that you feel you have been treated unfairly and are confused about why this was done to you.  Understanding why people shame others might help you with this question.  Shaming others is a tactic of those abusive and cowardly individuals commonly referred to as bullies (Mueller, M., 2000).  As Tuck T. Saul, Ph.D. (2007) points out, people who shame others are shamed based themselves. They project their shame onto others as a way of avoiding the shame they feel, to indulge their need to feel superior, and to fulfill their desire (and vacancy) for power and control.  Their shame is related to self-hatred and the personal impotence that is the damage often resulting from being shamed by the significant others (mummy, daddy, spouse, etc) in their lives.  Rather than dealing with their shame they deny it exists and avoid it by projecting their shame on others.  Thus, shaming others becomes the automatic way they deal with the self-hatred that is the basis for their shame and to compensate for their personal impotence. The finale to the Chairman’s shaming tirade, his “final and last warning,�?is clearly and ominously a direct threat to you: “I shall eradicate you permenantly�?BR>                                                   Master Antony, 2007 Threatening people, like shaming them, is the cowardly act of a bully and a reflection of the personal impotence that drives their hunger for power, control, and the mirage of being superior to others (Mueller, M., 2000; Saul, T., 2007).  I cannot be reasonably sure, however, of what he means or how he plans to “eradicate you.�?nbsp; It might be nothing more than the “huffing and puffing�?often done by those who want to be considered dominant on-line.  If he has personal information about you such as your phone number or home address then I strongly suggest you consider reporting the Chairman’s threat to the proper authorities.  ﺼﺸ§hìftìñgWìñdﻌﺼ