blossom, while what tara says is a load of hot air and cruel intentions, unfortunately, that is the way she has been, and wil continue to be. She thinks she is all that, but the more she talks, the more she makes a fool of herself, and alienates people.
You, however, should not have lowered yourself to that level, for in their eyes, you only confirmed their opinion of you. You let the guy- get you to lose your control.
Staying calm is hard; i understand how hard i tis better than you think. There comes a time when you need to ask yourself if so and so is really worth wasting your energies on, hon...
tara needs to put others down to make herself look important. You know otherwise. Comport yourself in a manner that shows you have more respect for yourself hon.
Don't let people like her have the satisfaction of knowing they get to you.
Good luck toyou in the future, blossom,
soul