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From: MSN Nickname۵gõđđзşş۰oƒ۵tħз۰c۵  (Original Message)Sent: 10/7/2008 3:00 AM
Simply put...is it possible to have a D/s relationship that does NOT involve sex? Or does this then get sectioned off into the whole "Mentor" area?
 
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From: MSN Nickname◦đę√įlş◦ŵişħ�?/nobr>Sent: 10/7/2008 2:51 PM
I've thought about this a couple of times myself. For me..no lol. submission and sexuality are too tightly wound together in me for it to ever work. I can't see myself being able to separate the two even if the Dominant could. Either way it would lead to frustration that would inevitably get in the way.
 
For someone else...it's possible i guess. It would depend on the people i suppose but that doesnt really offer up an answer does it?
 
Friends that are Dominant are different i suppose...in that the relationship is one of friendship and not Master/submissive. If not then i'd like to change my answer and yes i think it's possible 
 
 
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From: MSN NicknameşyđneySent: 10/7/2008 10:59 PM
This is a very interesting question. I would say that i fall into the same catergory as dev. Submission and sexuality have always gone hand in hand for me, since i first began my journey in D/s. But i think it is very possible for a Dominant and a submissive to share a platonic but nevertheless, D/s relationship - where he assumes a certain role in her life, be it guide, mentor, friend, etc. I think dev is right that this depends greatly on the people involved, but i would also add cirumstances are also important in deciding if two people choose this kind of D/s relationship for T/themselves.

I think its very possible that two people can connect on a purely emotional level and sex, for whatever reason, is excluded from the relationship. I think if both people feel it works best for them, both are in agreement, then why not. I think a relationship of that nature might be a very valuable one to experience for some of people. You have a chance to really get to know someone, relate to them on a whole different level, and i think for a submissive, it might afford an opportunity to serve in other ways - by not being sexual and offering instead support, understanding, and friendship, just as examples. You might have the chance to learn to give yourself in other ways and that is something you will take with you on your lifelong journey as submissive.

I think sometimes we connect with folks and sex just isn't part of it, or it isn't part of things right away. But i believe you can still experience a meaningful and deep bond with the Dominant you are submitting to. Its just your submission isn't about giving your body.

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