Hey babe, I read this post, and I read your e-mail wondering why I didn't respond. I'm sorry, and I hope you didn't think I was ignoring it. I'm sorry I didn't respond right away, but I read it and didn't think it required an immediate response.

 I know, and I agree that we need to be able to communicate without either of us getting upset or defensive, and I am working so hard on that sweety. I don't want us to be "doomed," and that's because I love you with all my heart, and there is nobody else in this world I want to spend my life with.

 I am so sorry you feel sad at times, and you wish things were different. I'm so very sorry at times you feel unimportant to me. I guess at this point, I'm just a little confused by some things, and I want to understand, desperately. I'm having to read your post over and over trying to wrap my head around it, and understand. You said you can't make me feel something I don't. What is it that you wish I felt, but don't? I am the way I am? You were wrong in assuming certain things about our love? When I hear or read things like this, it hurts me. I swear I'm not being defensive or mad, but it saddens me to know that deep down you feel like I don't love you deeply enough, or think that you are not so very important to me. I put you above all else. I am always here for you baby. I would give up anything in this world for you, and I would end my own, unimportant life for you. My life is nothing without you, and I have always hoped you would see and feel and know that.

 I would never dismiss the situation with looking at other women nude. I know, in my heart how you feel on this, and I respect it, and I have agreed with you on this. We've had this discussion and I know how it has made you feel, and I will forever regret that it ever happened... but at the same time with me realizing this, I have made changes, and keeping in mind just how much I love you and need to be with you, and not wanting to ever hurt you, I feel very confident that we can get beyond it, and be where we need to be in our relationship. There is nobody else in this world I desire to be with. You are the love of my life, and while I will say that old habits can be hard to break, it's not impossible, and I want nothing more in this world for you to feel in your heart and soul that you are the only woman in this world for me. I understand your struggles baby, and I always respect how you feel, and I want us to share each and every thoughts and feelings and beliefs and expectations when it comes to our life and love together. I know and understand you will have some down days, as I do too, but honestly, when you make a post like this I struggle with understanding exactly where it's coming from. I do feel like I have done something horrible, recently, to make you say you feel unimportant, or that our love is not what you expected. I know, sometimes when we discuss things, I get frustrated, and yes, I have to end it and walk away. It's not because I don't love you, or want to hear what you are saying, or that I don't agree with how you feel. It's literally because I simply get confused, and I get frustrated with myself and I feel like I should be able to understand, but for some reason I'm not. I know we need to work on communicating.... that's a fact, but it hurts deep down inside to hear you say you don't feel important to me, when everything I do on this earth is for you, and us, and the kids, and our lives together. Am I a perfect person? No way in hell. Do I have faults? Of course, but I am here, with you. And I am always behind you in anything you want to pursue, and I would always defend you when it came to anybody else in this world. I would kill for you, and I would die for you baby. I just hope you can some day realize this.

 I hate it, with a passion when we argue. It's a gut wrenching, horrible feeling. I want us to work on communicating better, and I try. It's very important for us, to ensure a nice, long and lovely life together. I need to work on understanding more, and not allowing myself to get frustrated. Please try and understand too though, that if at times I seem quiet during discussions, it's not from a lack of interest, or caring, but just trying to take it all in and understand, before just popping off with a response. I love you, and I just want to always be sensitive to your felings and thoughts, and I want and need to handle my responses delicately.

 I love you baby... with all my heart and soul and everything within me. I love you more with each passing day. I could never even imagine my life without you. I hope you know this. You are my soulmate, and I will always know this. There is nobody more important to me, than you are. I love you !!!