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| | | From: Ridley | Sent: 5/27/2008 2:10 PM |
Well this kind of did happen to me. Only it was 28 years together. And I was a teenager. But my parents did divorce. And my Dad had many women on the side all thru their marriage. And I didn't accept it or go ballistic on my Dad. Mainly I just cried. My middle brother just cried too. My oldest brother handed my parents a Bible and told them to try again. And my way of dealing with the divorce was to date a biker who had been a carnival worker. He had been addicted to drugs. He had been to jail. He had been with a gagillion sexual partners. Luckily I had enough sense not to sleep with him because he refused to wear a condom. Then afterwards he told anyone that would listen that I had been pregnant with his child and lost it because I was doing drugs. Then he would come to the drive thru at McDonalds and yell obscenities at me while I was trying to work. I complained about it to my Dad. My Dad had a "little talk" with him and to this day the man runs away from me if he sees me around. I have no idea what my father did or said to him but my Dad is crazy and he's very protective so there's no telling. I had told my Dad about another guy bothering me the same night I had told him about Dan(the biker) and that guy came thru the drive thru and apologized and said, "Tell your Dad I came by and apologized okay? you tell him okay?" He was scared to death. So I told My Dad and he smiled. He then said, "Dan won't be bothering you anymore either." I said... Dad what did you do? He wouldn't tell me. But I saw Dan later that week and he ran from me. He even ran from my Mom!!!! My Dad is crazy. But anyway, they did divorce and about 15 or so years later they are now friends which seems really odd to me. They would get back together then Dad would find a new woman and they would split up. Then my Mom married again and then divorced after a couple of years. My Dad married again twice and got divorced again. Then he had a couple long term girlfriends. Now they are both on their own and I haven't seen any new prospects for either of them. So it's weird to see them friendly. But I'm glad I can have family functions without worrying about the drama. It was a good thing my parents divorced. They should've divorced before I was ever born. Not that I am not glad to be alive but they were not right for each other, it was a diaster. How's that for an answer? |
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| | | From: Disisme | Sent: 5/27/2008 7:06 PM |
Rid,...you rebel!!! Well this question would be hard for me to imagine since both my parents have passed away. My parents were alcoholics so tension and fighting were a frequent thing in my house.When I was eleven or twelve I use to secretly wish my mom would leave my dad. Not because he cheated on her, he never did, but because somehow I thought if she got away from him she wouldn't drink anymore. So I guess back then I would have welcomed a divorce. My parents were very close when they were sober, but as time went on and into my teens I understood more what was going on. Not that I enjoyed it, I ran away to Toronto when I was 15 only to discover that the streets can be alot colder than home no matter how much being at home sucked!So...I guess if they were both still around now, I wouldn't want them to divorce, they really did love one another, they just got caught up in the wicked addiction trap and couldn't find a way out. |
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| | | From: Ridley | Sent: 5/28/2008 1:59 PM |
Dis I am so sorry. You are such an amazing person, and so strong. I really admire you. |
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| | | From: Disisme | Sent: 5/29/2008 1:36 AM |
Omg Rid, thank you. I didn't mean for it to come off sounding so sad.We all have shit we go through and I'm certainly not alone when it comes to that. You have been through alot too as well as everyone here I would imagine. Sometimes it just slips out when a certain subjects comes up. I really hope I haven't put a 'damper' on this topic. That wasn't my intention at all. ...next? |
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I don't know what I would do. As my Mom died June 2nd, 1986. It would have to have been before that. I would have probably cut off all contact with him. There are several females here locally, that have tried to start some kind of relationship with him (he has enough money to be comfortable). We have talked about them and I have told him I would never speak to him while he was married to them. I think he was kind of shocked to hear me say that. One older female has two druggie sons older then me. She was very weepy at her husbands funeral, then she went out and got a brand new suburban. I think it made her feel better, retail therapy. And her sons disappeared for a couple of months, when they were seen again they were very, very thin! Then she started looking for another husband. Her sons were kinda insistant that they needed more money!!!!!!!! |
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| | | From: Ridley | Sent: 6/1/2008 1:10 PM |
Just curious Luke... You wouldn't talk to your father if he married anyone else or just if he married someone unsuitable? |
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If he had of left my mom while they were still married, I would have stopped talking with him. Now, after moms dead for twenty some years, if he found someone nice, I and the rest of the family would be very happy! If, however, he got involved with some lady who was only out for a free ride for herself and her own children I would tell him to call me when she left. When his last wife left she took everything she could lift. She even took the can opener that my mom got before she died. But she left all the canned goods that she knew he would not eat! And she left a carved wooden sculpture she had made for them. It was from a large tree trunk, it was a horses ass with tail and everything. B+M inside a heart was burned into it. He is Bob and she was Millie. |
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