Dear Razors-R-Us, I can understand your concerns over this matter, both from the standpoint of finding ways to get rid of the hair in the first place and also the emotional toll its taking in your relationship. Often one's emotional response or lack thereof is down to not having the basic info needed to be supportive of one's partner. Knowledge is power.
Facial hair growth in women is quite common after menopause due to a decreased lack of estrogen. Here are a few articles for your husband to look over, followed by some info for you on possible solutions to get rid of the unwanted hair.
Women's Diagnostic Cyber, Q&A for doctors, "Facial hair growth after menopause"
Reasons for facial hair growth & a cream used to prevent it:
FDA report approving this facial hair treatment:
More info and stats on this product
Purchase it online at discount prices
The herb Saw Palmetto used to prevent facial hair growth in women:
Other hair removing info such as laser treatments:
Men surviving menopause-the effect of menopause on men, their misunderstandings of it and its affects on their relationsips:
Menopause manners for men:
Men's health and male menopause:
Male Menopause book info:
From another woman's point of view here, I understand how easy it is for us to internalize and often blame ourselves for any lack of intimacy in a relationship, we often blame ourselves when we're not responded to in a positive physical sense on a regular basis that affirms to us our attractiveness and desireability but I've learned that many outside factors are probably at play here including changes going on with the man and also emotional and psychological issues within the relationship as a whole.
One thing I've recently learned is that we become free when we let go and relinquish the need to control and modify behaviors in others. We can't change someone into someone they're not any more than they can change us. What's personally brought me peace in recent months is letting go trying to change my partner and instead focusing on myself and taking a philisophical approach, all we have the power to do is improve OURselves and doing this brings immense satisfaction and greatly boosts self esteem and the better we feel about ourselves, the more that will come across to others. Also, what tends to hinder our positive self perceptions is what we perceive others reactions to us are, if we feel others find us undesirable we all too often fall into that same trap and therefore get resentful and project our pain and frustration onto others but we need to stop blaming ourselves, all we can do is improve ourselves and it we're still not receiving the support and attention we need out of our relationship, well at least we have done what we could for ourselves and have made ourselves stronger and most of the time as one goes through this process we become stronger and more independent and better able to find out what we're lacking and what we're needing in a relationship. The more we know ourselves the more we know what we want and need to be happy and happiness and a positive self image comes from within; nobody can give that to us. Good luck to you both!
Robyn
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and he is not into kissing blokes. Hell, I am far from being a bloke as I was the one who bore my children. I feel now that I no longer want him to kiss me anymore
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