Dear Too in love to care really,
Congratulations on your new relationship and I'm so happy to hear it's going so well, that's wonderful. I don't see anything wrong at all about being in love and letting it show; Most people go their whole lives without truly being in love and finding that special someone to share their lives with and you have and you're extremely happy and want others to share in your happiness, there's nothing at all wrong with that. If someone won the lottery, wouldn't they want their family and friends to share in their good fortune? Happiness is contagious and you want others to feel what you do but unfortunately often times some people, even those who we think are our friends can get spiteful and mean and seem to want to rain on our parade.
Sometimes when people do this they aren't deliberately setting out to sabotage our happiness, they do it unconsciously and there are a number of factors that might account for this. Often times people are in a less than ideal situation themselves and can't see past their own pain, unhappiness, loneliness and frustration and when they see others find what they themselves are looking for, instead of celebrating our happiness, their jealousy comes out instead. It's like the "misery loves company" thing, if some people are miserable, they seek to make others the same way to bring them down to their level. Often times this is done subconsciously but the results are the same.
Ever see the reactions of people when the latest edition of a tabloid comes out? It's pretty sick, really. So many people are thrilled to find out certain celebs have personal problems; What has humanity come to when people delight in the suffering of others? Why do some people rejoice when famous and not so famous couples break up, have drug problems or if someone gains a few pounds and is photographed in an unflattering way? Many people have a need to bring others down in order to make themselves feel better; if someone is happy and another person is not, they can either be happy for the other person or take their own frustrations out on them and try to bring them down to their level. It's a matter of maturity and how one rises above their own situation.
Often times the people who hurt us most are those who are supposed to be our closest friends. Sometimes they're not aware that they're doing it and sometimes it's deliberate and done so out of spite and jealousy but it's really their problem and NOT yours. If a friend can't share in your happiness then they're not being a true friend. I've always believed that a true friend is there for you in the good times as well as the bad and a true friend will cry with you when you're down and cheer for you when you're up.
If you've addressed this situation with the person or persons who have made this an issue and they've apologized and realized their actions, if they're a true friend to begin with, hopefully you bring this to their attention will be the wake up call that they need and they'll realize their error and look within themselves and examine their own motives for their behavior and hopefully come to terms with things and be able to share in your happiness. If they're not able to do this, then they've shown their true colors and it's a good thing you've been made aware of it.
There are times in all of our lives where friendships are put to the test and often times they're periods of extreme highs or lows in our lives and we find out who our real friends really are and sometimes we're disappointed but true friends stick it out no matter what, they'll remain true until the end and that's personally what I'd be concentrating on. Your real friends delight in seeing you happy and never tire of hearing such a wonderful love story and seeing that big smile on your face. That's what a friend wants for another friend, the very best life and love has to offer and especially after all you've had to endure and all the growing you've done in such a short amount of time, to find the happiness you have is nothing short of awesome and I for one am thrilled for you. If you've confronted the person or persons who seem to be unable to share in your happiness and they're not able to change, you've done everything you can and the ball is now in their court. Their actions from now on will determine the depth and sincerity of their friendship and loyalty to you.
Life is short and love is rare. Rejoice in what you've been given and continue being too much in love to care!
Robyn
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