the saying   "if you have nothing nothing nice to say--say nothing at all!"?  Last night Iget home from work and my family is there.  Its no big deal (so I thought) I figured they  were there to say goodbye to my daughter.  My daughter goes out for an hour to say bye to her friends and all of a sudden it was like a bash fest against my daughter!! As I had said in earlier posts she is taking the car back with her.  We had a deal a minimum of a 3.00 for a gpa for her 1st semester and the car is hers.  Well did I ever get an earful about how they thought what a big mistake that was!!  At first it was like they didn't even realize I was still in the room until I turned around and said "you do realize I am her mother!"  Now keep in mind my brothers and sisters I have known all my life and I have seen them make the dumbest mistakes.  Marriages that never should have happened, wrecked cars and I could go on, but I kept my mouth shut.  It was thier life and they needed to learn by thier own mistakes.  Everyone of them went to college with a car, my 2 older daughters went to college with a car, why its such a shock for the youngest to be able to have the same treatment is beyond me.  My biggest pet peeve are these parents who say "not MY child"  most of the time I want to scream and  say yes your child.  I am laughiing as i am writing this because I remember a afew years ago every wednesday was cuss free day at my house which meant the kids could cuss nothing bad a few sh*&s and damns and that was about it, of course they were teenagers at the time and when I would tell my friends about it they would say "Not my kid he doesn't cuss" I can't tell you how many times I would say "yes your child they just don't do it in front of you"  Now my so called "perfect family with the perfect kids" want to rag on my daughter.  I was told  "do you realize she was a party the other night and drank a few beers?  I told them yup--she didn't have the car, she is 18and I knew where she was and by the way your son was there also (which he was) only to hear my sister say "Not my child!"  I about blew up.  I asked do you know where he was (holding onto my daughhters  camera witth the pictures) for her to say well we texted back and forth and he was with friends and I thought yup at the party but I kept my mouth shut.  I  know my kids arent perfect--I remember what I was like.  But they aren't hellions either.  I have raised them to be honest law abiding taxpaying citizens and to hear my family trash my daughter that way just made my blood boil.  If its a mistake letting her have the car oh well I   will learn from it but I am going to keep good on my end of the deal regardless of what the fools think.  Besides my kids know if you wind up in jail don't call mama she's not gonna get you out--she'll make you sit there until you get the point.  Thank you so much for letting me vent I can sleep much better now lol