May God be with you on this trip.  Jeffy needs you.  I can't believe Randa has let this go on.  Doesn't sound like she is seeing the writing on the wall.  Lori if I lived closer I would not let you go alone.  I can only imagine how upset you are. 

Be safe and good luck Lori.  Poor Jeff.  My thoughts and prayers are very much with you for a safe trip

We have made it home safe and sound. My niece, Dawn, went with me. She drove actually. No way was she letting me go alone. I think she thought she may have to bail me out of jail if she did!! It could happen! A friend of mine went over to Jim's and picked Randa and Jeff up and took them to the store to get formula and baby food and then took them home with her and Dawn and I picked her up from Pam's house. She brought nothing with her except Jeff and diapers. No toys, not even her purse or her clothes. I do not think she will go back up but who knows. She has no brains when it comes to this guy. She shows every sign of abused woman syndrome. I never have understood that! Not in her or any woman for that matter.

Oh well,. they are here safenow, and she will play hell getting Jeff out of this house if she does want to go back ever. It ain't happenin! But for now I am mostly keeping my lip zipped til I see what she is going to do.

Thanks for the support.

Talk to you all tomorrow!

                                    Nite,

                                            Lori

I am so relieved that you are back home with Jeffy.  Your daughter can fend for herself but Jeffy can't.  I wonder if one of the workers from an  abused womens shelter might be able to give you some advice so that you can get through to her.  Or maybe they can talk to her.  Sort of an intervention type thing. 

 

Your neice is a good woman Lori.  She kept you from getting arrested.  Yeah I probably would have kicked the crap out of that loser.

Can someone have a court order Lori?  VERY happy to hear you 3 made it home safely.  I agree...something is very very wrong for her to have left everything there,leaving with just the baby.  Sending you positive thoughts and prayers

 

 

 

I agree about the abuse.  Maybe she is suffering from a lack of father figure or lack of closesness with her father growning up.Or she thinks she can fix him if she loves him enough.  From the sounds of things he fed her some stories. Doesn't he have children with his ex wife?  How does he support them?

she is suffering from a lack of a father when growing up. But at some point you have to get past THAT!! I would do a no contact order but what good would that do when she talks to him if he calls.

I know he is abusing her. Mentally for sure, and I am starting to think maybe more. But until she sees the light for herself there is no helping her. She has one friend here who has been through something similar and Lisa shared that with Randa today. I am hoping that will help. the intervention thing might be a good idea. I will check into it. There must be a womans shelter down here someplace.

Thanks for all  your support Girls. I don't really know what I would do if I couldn't talk to you guys!!

((((((((((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

                                            Lori

I truly hope you don't mind when we say things.  It's very difficult not knowing the whole story.  But we are all mothers here and our hearts ache when we hear what she is doing to herself and Jeffy.  Maybe Lisa got help when she was going thru this and maybe she can get those people to talk to Randa.

Hugs