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hello my name is Tonya i dont get on my computer much be cause it was my hubs. I lost him June 20th and then i had to go throw hernia surgery. i had 3 hernias and i had my best friend passaway the 25th of July it hurts to bad to talk about my life well i have 4 kids they are 18 years 16 years 15 years old and a 9 mo old . ohhh buy the way i was married for 20 years he passed 1 mo befor my b-day im in a lot of pain right now cause Auq 16th we would had been married 21 years so i loved him a lot but dont know if i can go on with out him. love Tonya |
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hey hun,you will never forget but time does heal the pain. I know because i lost my husband 2 years ago.You will always remember the time you had with him, it just gets easier to get through the days. My prayers are with you. |
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Tonya, I'm so sorry for your loss.You've really got your hands full! 4 kids! Girls or boys? I have 3 grown daughters, ! granddaughter & 2 grandsons. Number 4 grandchild is on the way!  My grandsons live with me. Hun, Come & talk to us when you get down. Theres usually somebody around. Hugs to you, Connie |
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| | From:  mscht42 | Sent: 8/6/2008 2:05 AM |
Tonya, you have come to the right place. Maybe you and Mrs. Shirley can both heal some from your losses. She just lost her husband last month. The other new poster, Heather, is also a widow who lost her true soulmate, much like you. I can't tell you i know how it feels because I don't. I imagine it would be easy, very easy, to allow yourself to slip into a very deep depression. But, you can't do that with children the ages you have. You have to be "the" strong one for them, huh? I am sorry your heart hurts so badly tonight. Although I do not know how your pain feels, I will gladly lend an ear anytime you need to talk, scream, vent, whatever. You are welcome to be yourself here. I may be wrong, but I believe every one of us suffer some kind of depression. For me, it is clinical depression and depression from being single mother of two teens with a chronic illness. I live with Scleroderma which can rear its ugly head with no notice. How are you healing from your surgery? I have a hiatal hernia but no surgery has been discussed. Nobody wants to cut on me anyway. Hope to see you more often. I think your husband would want you to use "his" computer as a means to heal. You will always love him, but as debbie said, each day will get better IF you allow it to. That is easier said than done and I know that. My kids have been my inspiration at times I have wanted to just give up. Cynthia in bama |
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Tonya, Welcome to the group. I'm sorry for your loss. You have been threw so much in the last couple of months. Always know that we are there for you Hugs Dawn |
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Tonya i to have never been through what you have i have lost people t hat i have loved.. But not my soulmate.. My heart goes out to you and your children. But you know what your husband im sure would not want you to give up you have children and im sure they need and love you. If it wasnt for mine i dont think that i could made it with half of what i had to endure in my life.. Time heals all wounds .. Feel free to talk about your feelings noone here will ever judge you .. We are here for you no matter.. God BLess Joanne |
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Tonya I have to tell you that I know exactly how you are feeling. I lost my husband July 5th of this year. We had been married 20 years. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about him. I often wonder if I could have done this or that better then maybe it wouldn't have happened. I regret every time we ever had an argument. As of right now I can't think of the good times only the 2 months he he lived with the diagnoses of lung cancer. He was diagnosed with lung cancer in May and passed away July 5th. I thought that losing my right leg above the knee almost 2 years ago now would be the worse thing that could happen to me but I sure was wrong. There are no words to describe the feelings of him passing. I am sure you feel the same way. Can you tlk about what happened to him? If not I understand completely. Its good to know that someone here understands how much I hurt. I woud enjoy talking to you anytime. Maybe we need each other and thats what brought us together in the group. |
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Yes Tonya please come back i know that Shirley is a great supporter as we all are but who knows best than the ones that have to deal with it .. I pray you are ok hun.. God Bless Joanne |
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Hi this is Tonya My husband had a tooth infection that ran to his hart and that what he passed with was the infection . in 1 day |
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Tonya, i had 2 husbands pass away and i know the feeling and i hope you will let us help you get through one day at a time.We are not here to judge you, we want to be here for you. We are a family here and we all love each other so we want to help if we can. My 2nd husband died 2 1/2 years ago and i still miss him. |
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Tonya, Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. Debbie said it all, stay with us, let us try to help you through this. I've not lost a mate, but I've had losses too, my brother a year ago, my Dad, my brother in law. We are a family here & we welcome you & want to help. big healing gentle hugs, Connie |
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Tonya im so sorry hun.. I've also tried talking with my husband about his teeth he doesnt wanna listen and they are so bad.. Know we are here for you .. God BLess Hun.. Joanne |
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Oh Tonya you had no time to prepare for all of this. What a shock for you. I never knew a tooth problem can be that bad. I had 2 months until Jerry passed and I still wasn't ready. We had such plans for his retirement and I still take it a hour at a time and sometimes minutes. I look at his picture and and just cry. It comes over me all of a sudden. Now with my medical problems I am really sad because he won't be here for me. That makes me feel selfish. Everyone says it will get better and how strong I am but it means nothing even though I know it is with good intension that they say these things. Please talk to me. We really do need each other. |
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Tonya, Please know that we are all here for you... Hugs
Dawn |
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Tonya wanted to let you know im thinking about you hun and hoping all is well with you know t hat we are here for you.. God Bless Joanne |
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