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From: MSN NicknameSoulWings  (Original Message)Sent: 8/8/2008 4:16 AM
Hi everyone. I have been under alot of stress with my daughter having that close call a few weeks ago and generally doing too much. I felt it the last few days. I knew I needed to rest but the anxiety of almost losing my daughter had me losing sleep.
 
The last few days I could feel I was getting in trouble again. Light sensivity is really strong, noise and even visual and audio quality has been sub par.  My balance wasn't great but with my daughter being sick I was picking up the slack she always does for me. tonight my body almost went tilt.
 
Jess wanted me to go with her to ther car wash because she was still tired from her anemia but her car was a mess. I happily went with her but found another trigger for me.  there are white lights inside the carwash that blinked and hurt my eyes. Monday night I was in a room and sat down with a bright white light singing my brain. I was able to adjust the light so the stream of light went away from me.
 
this is my question. When you feel your body starting to go and you know you have overdone it, what tools do you use to stay calm?  I needed to lay down but I was scared to let my body go and relax. I am very spiritual and pray. I get myself as comfortable as I can and let my daughter know I wasn't feeling well. I try to stay calm but can feel my knees and the rest of my body get tight like I have to hold on. Iwas able to relax about 40 minutes later and now I feel so much better.
 
do you guys have any special routines you use to relax until your body normalizes?  I started with these seizures 18 monthsd ago so my coping skills still need fine tuning. any suggestions would be appreciated. I will be resting for sure but I want to know what to do when I've pushed myself too far and am in danger of a seizure. Lori
 


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From: MSN NicknameJana-TASSent: 8/15/2008 3:59 AM
Hi Lori,
What you have told us that you do sounds good. It is good that you sit yourself down/ lay down and relax, are very spiritual and pray. As a Christian woman I know when we are going through tough times all we can do is go to the Lord and ask for help. I can say that now as I am very scared for our missionaries down in the Dominican Republic from our church as we received an email from them and it was forwarded to us on the prayer chain telling us that Gary's son was threatened with a pistol to his head. Thank God he was not killed. Please pray for them and their safety. They are the Klein family. I had read the email right before going to bed and then I could not fall asleep too quickly last night after praying. It's good Lori that you are doing what you are doing. Only are you putting yourself in danger if you are putting yourself under too much stress as stress makes it more possible for you to have a seizure.
Jana

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From: MSN NicknameSoulWingsSent: 8/18/2008 4:43 AM
Hi Jana. I am very spiritual now. the night my daughter got so sick I was truly scared but I never felt alone.  I always felt God with me and watching over Jess.  When it comes to me I lay down and pray but I still am scared to fall asleep because that's when I seize.  I need to distract myself and its just not that easy. It comes naturally to me for others but for myself its still a work in progress. Thanks. Lori

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From: MSN Nicknamewithangels_21Sent: 8/18/2008 12:04 PM
Hi Lori and Jana,
 
Yes Jana is so right in all respects here. Find a safe place and sit or lay down, this way you will not fall and hurt yourself....
OMG, yes Prayer is everything. We are Gods special ones. I truly believe that, for we help others.
Yes stress is bad, I never have mine until the stress is over and I start to relax. Just finding out, you will learn how and when things happen, and how to be safe....I myself believe you can not controll them hun, they come when they want to. So don't think of it as much...I hope soon your Dr. can get them better under controll so you don't feel like this going to bed. My prayers are out there for you hun....
 
Hugs, withangels

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From: MSN NicknameSamIam1084Sent: 8/21/2008 12:33 AM
Hi Lori,

I don't have Epilepsy but I suffer from Fibromyalgia. When the pain is so bad, I either take a hot shower (hot as I can stand it) or a bath and play Hawaiian music. (I want to go to Hawaii someday.) Or if I am mentally or physically exhausted, I'll go take a nap. You need to find that place where you can go and relax and just let it go. Stress is bad, and unhealthy. Listen to some relaxing music while your in bed. If you like smells, light some candles. The important thing is that you take care of yourself. : )

Take care Hun,

Sam I am

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From: TimSent: 8/24/2008 12:06 PM
Hi

It's been a while since posted on the boards. Things have been pretty good for me until just the other day, but coming back on here reminded me how lucky I am in comaparison with others. Your near loss of your daughter and Frankie going into status epilepticus being two cases.

I agree with most of the suggestions about relaxing, you are fortunate that you have enough warning to be able to get to somewhere safe. As for controlling them I agree with withangels, you can't, you can only postpone them. They will come when they want to, but so long as you are in a safe place that is the main thing. By all means use any coping method that works for you, I find concentrating on something else really helps (but not a pc screen!). I once made the mistake of just letting go and not fighting it, I had two very long tonic clonic seizures in a row (I only usually have one at a time and they aren't very long aparently) and was wiped out for ages.

One thing I would NOT advise however is taking a bath or shower (no offence intended sam I am) if you were to fall in the shower or slip under the water in the bath....need I say more? But listening to music that you find relaxing is a good thing and it gives you something to concentrate on.

Best wishes

Tim

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From: MSN NicknameSoulWingsSent: 9/5/2008 8:19 AM
Hi everyone. My daughter is still having a bit of trouble with the hives and I talked with my therapist last week because I find myself in utter panic when I try to sleep. She feels in addition to the stress of the seizures I have a strong case of PTST. As soon as I turn out the lights I feel like I am frozen in panic and drowning, the latter much like a pre warning for a siezure. She gave me some new coping skills that I am trying but until my daughter is stabilized I can't rest. I get that sick dizzy feeling that is generally a pre seizure warning. I am doing my best but this is really difficult for me. It is 3 15 am and I am still awake. I have tried twice to lay down actually dozing off but when I turn the tv off I feel very panicked. My balance has been off because I am tired and stressed and I know if this goes on much longer another seizure is just around the corner. I do pray and do the things on the list from the therapist but I need to keep practicing. thanks so much for your understanding. I imaging many of you feel scared about having another one and when you are looking after a sick person the stress level just makes relaxing worse. Lori

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From: MSN NicknameSoulWingsSent: 9/10/2008 4:35 AM
Hi Everyone. thanks for the great suggestions. My neuro told me not to take any baths unless someone else was home and if I had not had a seizure in a few months so I stick to showers for now. When I get myself worked up and the anxiety sets in any music annoys me, comedy shows which I normally love i find annoying. I went to see my therapist last week because I still can't sleep without having an anxiety attack. She is taking a different approach with my PTSD and some of the coping skills make sense. I also have to keep in mind that if I do not sleep I run the risk of having another siezure. Tim, most of my seizures happen in my sleep which is anxiety provoking as well. I feel if I just let go and sleep I will fall too far down and never wake up. My daughter saw the allergist today and actually broke out in a few hives while we were in the office. the doctor said that anything could be causing them and Jess needs to be free of antihistimes for a week before she can do the testing. She had some benedryl last week so she will have her testing done on Saturday. this doctor also told my daughter that her pediatrician never should have taken her off her thryoid medication because the thryoid tends to run low if you have hyopthryoidism and that in itself can cause anemia. I am very interested to know now what she is having a reaction to. I will keep you guys posted. thanks for all the good suggestions. Lori

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