Because of a number of postings here regarding breakups, I thought it would be interesting to post the following. Oh how I wish I had read this sort of stuff when I was going through breakups myself.
What NOT to do if you're trying to get an ex back
-- by Marius Panzarella
1) Do NOT fight with him. Fighting ALWAYS creates tension and kills attraction. Fighting with an ex is useless. Even if you win the argument, you will still lose the war.
2) Do NOT try to use logic to "convince" him to stay or come back to you. Love is based on FEELINGS, not logic. No matter how brilliant your logic is, he's still going to leave you.
3) Do NOT reassure your ex that you have "changed" or that things will be "different from now on". It's like trying to bail water out of a sinking boat. It won't work. The hole will still be there.
4) Do NOT keep telling him that you love him. He doesn't care. All he cares about is how much HE loves YOU...not the other way around!
5) Do NOT beg him to come back. The more you beg, the more you will push him way.
6) Do NOT try to make him feel guilty about leaving you. (Examples: "I can't live without you." and "Don't break up with me during my exam period...") It won't work. It will only make him DREAD being with you even more.
7) Do not act depressed to make him feel bad for you. Sympathy does NOT equal ATTRACTION!
8) Do NOT talk to his friends to win their support. All he cares is how HE feels about you. Even if his friends love you, they can't make him love you forever. External pressure never
lasts for long. If your man decides to stay with you, his motivation has to come from WITHIN.
9) Do NOT cry in front of him. While he may hug you, he will be proud that he has so much power over you...and move on to another woman.
10) Do NOT push him into getting back with you. The more you push, the more he will PULL AWAY.
These are the most common mistakes women make during a breakup. Trust me, you don't want to do ANY of these things. If you do, I can guarantee you your relationship will be doomed. You probably won't even get a chance to kiss him goodbye, let alone get him back. I deal with dozens of breakup cases every week, so I KNOW what I am talking about!
There is a link to download some useful stuff, but I hesitated to put it here. Ask me and I will forward it to you.
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Very interesting!!!thanks for sharing
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