We've talked about it at times, but never followed through.  I don't think it could fix it if it wasn't really wanted, if anything I think it would bring things to an end quicker.

Rex and I went but it was ordered by the court and was more towards blending the kids into one family.

 

I belive a person can guide you to make better choices but no one but you can fix your mistakes.

I am actually a very analytical thinker, and I can step outside of a situation even one that I am in (after a while, not at first) and see all sides so a lot of the time when we have an issue I kind of play in my mind the part of a counsellor and try to play devils advocate with myself and see all sides , does that make sense? So I dont think that a counsellor would ever do any more for us then I can and do myself. Actually Jamie is a horrible communicator which is one of the issues in our marriage and because I have been with him for 9 years and know how he thinks and reacts to things, I am better to talk to him about stuff and get him to open up then anyone else could ever do because I can manipulate the situation to make it work for him .

 

I dont think a counsellor necessarily fixes a problem but can maybe help people to isolate exactly what the problems are and help them to see the ways they can work on fixing them for themselves... or not whichever the case may be.

I have thought about it, but he was never open to it.  Then we kind of did it on our own, just opened back up and listened without judging and criticizing..  I think that's more or less what a dr does anyway, gets you to open up and listen, rather than leading you.  I think if any two people BOTH WANT it to work out, than it will.