I think it's selfish to stay together for the kids, they are affected by the tension.

I think a long time ago my mom's age group and older stayed married for a lot of wrong reasons, I never have. If this mama ain't happy she isn't staying.

I personally feel that today's society has made it so easy for people to just quit and give up, that too many marriages end in divorce that don't have to.   It's just like it's the "next step" and they just go there, rather than try to fix the issues.

 

That being said, I do think some people stay for the sake of the kids, and that's not necessarily a bad thing...IF you can keep the tension and stuff from affecting the kids, and that IS possible, but not easy.  I would be one of those women, and I'm glad I stuck it out....we're great now and it didn't affect the kids one bit.  AND, my kids have seen the good, the bad and the ugly and know that marriage can be tough at times, but you can work through it.  That's a good thing for them to see.  Too many kids never see their parents make up, just the fight, or just the happy times, and never the disagreements, so they go into their own marriages with rose colored glasses, or they get out at the first bump.