See, yet ANOTHER thing that we are the same about Mel! Though, with Rob, it's not like he doesn't want to, he just gets tired a lot earlier than I do, and with Billy up later, it's like we don't get the opportunity. And even when we do, he isn't always interested. When we were dating it was at LEAST 3 times a week, now it's once a week, unless I have my period, so it averages 3-4 x's a month.
That being said, we've talk about it, and when we do find the time, or make the time, it's a lot more mutual than it used to be. I can't really remember what we said to each other, exactly. I pretty much explained that I needed to be touched too and that when I did all the touching, I just felt like I was being used. It was a very calm conversation, and I just explained how I felt...using the word "I". If you say it like "You don't touch me enough", then it makes it seem like it's his fault. LOL, which it is, but maybe he doesn't realize it.
I saw on Oprah once where these couples were sent to a sex camp to learn how to connect sexually. One night they had an assignment of pleasing the wife...and the wife only, with no actual intercourse. The 2nd night, it was the guys turn...again, no intercourse. Then the last night, they were instructed to slow it down, do things slowly, but they were "allowed"(LOL) to complete the job. It was really interesting watching the couples and how they were with each other afterward. A lot closer.
I swear the biggest issue with men is that they think things are just fine the way they are, unless they are told what else to do. Rob has expanded his variety, shall we say, but it's still a lot tamer than previous relationships. In the grand scheme of life, he is a great husband and father, so I will take the tamer, so long as I get it.
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