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Mum and I have had a fight!
I am sooo annoyed and grr right now.
Guess I am gonna have to get this all out and tell whole story - sorry!
Firstly Mum came here 1.5 weeks ago and complaining of an itchy neck. First thing she said was "i hope i dont have nits" she told me that my SISTER said the kids had had them recently. I said oh but its only your neck that is itchy though - she said well that is how it starts. Anyway I was like oh great. Then she changed her shampoo cause she said she had just started using a new one. She didnt say anything else much since except yesterday she said her neck was still itchy.
This am Sophie woke and said she had a rash on her neck - it was still sort of darkish in her room and I couldnt see anything. Later she had a shower with me and I saw her neck was all dry. After the shower I looked through her hair and found 1 live nit. Mum was there and she said ohh. I said so you are still itchy? she said yes. I said well looks like mels kids gave you nits and now Sophie has them too. She was naturally like ohh great. So I started looking online for nit products and starting to feel an itch myself (although probably just in my head) I thought I want to do the whole family.
I don't want to use chemicals. I have my own beleifs, facts and reasons for this and after looking online today there was even more no way I would use chemical ones. So after searching and coming up empty on what was safe for me being preggas and all and something I was willing to put on Gracie's head (being so young even sophie) I was getting stressed out. Mum kept saying its not my fault hayley. I said I know mum but I am just stressed out and this is like the last thing I need right now. I am due tomorrow, I have NO car today and rego is due on saturday and we have nits in the house. She was getting real edgy with me. I went to the bathroom and I heard her on the phone to dad. She said Sophie has nits and Hayley thinks I gave them to her. I got cranky and said Mum you have nits! do you think you don't?? She said well how do you know I do? I was like wt are you serious you had the itchy rash on your neck since you were at mels and her kids had had them (obviously stil had them) and since you have been here a week and changed back to your norm shampoo and you are even more itchy now and now Sophie has her first syptoms today I would say you have them and gave them to Sophie. She imediatly got her back up and said well how is it my fault bla bla bla and I said I never said it was your fault but you did say you were itchy from before you came here and if it were getting worse then you would think you would have looked into it - especially knowing mels kids had them and they slept in your bed etc while you were there.
Anyway i sort of walked away and then I called lil sis to ask if she could go to the chemist and ask for me etc what we can use and maybe bring something if she can find one. Lil sis said "are you upsetting mum? hayley it is only nits Sophie probably got them from preschool and gave them to mum" I said umm no Mum has quiet obvioulsy given them to Sophie and no I am not upsetting mum i am upset because Mum wont just say she has them and get over it and do what needs to be done. Anyway I got off the phone and I said did you tell ali that I am upsetting you and mum completly denied it she said that ali got it wrong and that she said to her on the phone that I am upset about it. Again almost got into heated argument over this and I said I never said I never said your dirty or its all your fault etc mum I am just stressed out about it all and am not really in the mood for this right now and when I hear you saying thinsg to dad and ali about I think you have nits as if you dont its annoys me because you do and I just want to deal with it asap and having no car is also adding to the problem. She said well how do you KNOW I have them. Then it was all to much for me and I was just like whatever mum just leave me alone.
next thing ali is on phone again and saying to mum that the chemist said this product moov is fine for me being preggas and I hear mum say well just get some for me then and Hayley can do what she wants with her and kids.
So then ali turns up with it and I went out the front as mum was out there. Things were fine at first till I said you didnt get a comb and she said it comes with a free comb. I said oh good then well I guess I will get my own comb when I get my own stuff then. Ali says you can use mums comb she doesnt have a dissease. I said umm I know that but obviously this one tube wont do us all so I will naturally get my own free comb. mum said what are you gonna do get 7 combs for everyone? i was like what are you on about I am simply saying bla bla bla and she was just getting all defensive and stupid. I had to try and repeat myself yet again and explain the bits that annoyed me about it all and mentioned that she told ali i upset her and she then admitted she did say it and I ws then just angry at her. I took the girls inside. Ali came in and I explained to her why I was upset and that now mum had made me angry cause she lied. I said I know it is not her friggin fault for crying out loud but if she just admitted she had them instead of pro friggin crastinating (lol) I wouldnt be so annoyed. Mum came in and rambled on about something half crying and half yelling at me. next thing she gets in ali's car and they drive off.
Grrrrrrrrrrr how is this situation so complicated.
I think it is also because it is just not good to be sharing your home with anyone even your/or especially your parnents for too long. It is probably all getting to us all?!
As well as Jake said something to me last night which I know and I have tried to tell mum and dad...that they cant keep feeding the girls everything they eat. The girls have eaten so much crap since they have been here. i mean lollies chocolate, hot chips etc etc the list goes on and it not just occasionally not even once a day it is constant. I told them they have been getting eczema which neither of them have had in so long and they have been eating too much dairy and wheat and that they dont need to feed them from there own plates. But they still do. After I had just told mum the other day I am cutting there dairy and wheat right back to nothing so help there eczema she goes and gives gracie a quarter of her taosted cheese sandwich. I was like ffs.
Anyway I called moov the company as they claim they are natural and I asked if it is safe for me to use when preggas. she said we have not tested it on pregnant or bf women but I would say it is ok to use as our active ingredient is eqayptus sp? oil. i said can you tell what other ingredients are in it. she said umm no it is some confidencial thing or something but that another ingredient is tea tree. I said well I know you are not supposed to use tea tree when pregnant she said ohh. Stupid people. So that was enough for me to not want to use it.
So then I kept searching and found a product and called the number. The lady assures me it is safe for pregnant, bf women and also Gracie being only 1. It is all natural and available from coles and woolies. So I called Jake and had a big cry about it all and he is getting some on the way home. I called ali and told her I found something I am happy with and she said ok well mum is staying here till at least dad gets home today. I was like ok whatever.
Sorry so long I just really really needed to get that all out.
I am just so emotional - I wanted to call my mil and my bestie to talk to them about it but I knew I couldnt without turning into a bluburing mess. grr
Anyway thanks for reading.
xox
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