well sounds like a wedding dilemma! Can Andrew drive with anyone else then? Or noone else going from near you?
Pillows, well my very beautiful Nana (bless her soul) bought B a toddler pillow for his first b'day, I think we put it in the cot from then but he never used it and still doesnt use it. It just sits in there untouched, but as you may know he is a HUGE mover and never stays still ever so that is probly why. Sometimes it ends up under him or at the other end or stays at the top untouched but never does he sleep with his head on it! lol!!
I guess he will use it when he is ready, I am not forcing him to. Maybe when he goes into a bed he might?