Well I read thru all that and must say I shed a bit of a tear just reading it. You described it so well I felt like I was there and could 'see' what was going on if that makes sense and your right its just heartbreakingly sad. Your friend sounds super strong and I am sure she is just plodding day by day atm and hopefully she can find the strength in her to just keep going. Your Mothers group sounds lovely and sounds as tho you have all been a great help to her.
I understand what you mean about it brought a peace to the situation, I think thats what was probly needed to.
Thanks for sharing all that with us, its an awful thing and I hope the family are doing okay.