Hi.... I was over in the Weimer area again today and wrote down the name of the golf course.

 

Here is the link to the town's website, with information about it.  Unfortunately they do not have a pic of the course, but it is really pretty.  

 

I know as things stand you won't be coming to visit or anything,  I just wanted you to know about it since it's not on a road you would normally travel.   I would imagine golfers are always on the lookout for someplace to play.

 

http://www.discoverweimar.com/np_recreation_.html

 

Also...

 

I drove up to the Smithville area to go to that Alum Creek shopping place..(which is not any good anymore), and saw another antique place instead, and came across a place you might like, Old West Merchantile.   It was closed the day I saw it, but looked through the windows and saw lots of nice stuff.   It's on Hwy 71, on the right when going towards Austin.  Past Smithville.   They don't have a web site.   So, next time you go to Michael's you might want to be on the look out for it.   You'll see a rounded tin building, housing antiques... and the OWM store is on the same side of the road as that building, but across from it in a different business building.

 

And... I didn't plan this when I started writing, but, I might as well talk about our divorce now too.

 

I know you are busy with work etc,  but I am hoping we can get things done, and the divorce final before April...before our anniversary if possible.   It depends on how long it takes to get all the legal information needed, including the retirement figures.

 

I'm having second thoughts though about doing all this without my consulting a lawyer.  I'm sure you have already obtained some information from a few sources, including others who have been through the divorce process.  I have not gotten any information from anyone...and that's really pretty stupid on my part I think.

 

I keep thinking about you marrying someone else and her getting what I put in 30 years for...and as a typical female it does not make me feel good.  

 

So I'm going to check into seeing if I can just talk to one for a consultation about what my rights are.   It would be worth the few hundred dollars it would cost for an hour of his/her time.

 

I know we can't afford to have it actually handled by lawyers in court,... I just want to make sure I am not being totally stupid about this and that I'm not getting taken in the process.   I have no desire whatsoever to take you... I just don't want to be laughed at behind my back for not at least being smart enough to protect what is rightfully mine... if anything even is.

 

You could remarry, and then something happen just a couple of months later, and she'd get it all,.. retirement, your life insurance, and the house, and that does not sit right with me.  I don't know if I can live with that Robin.   I basically gave up my life, and did without too many things over the years to just hand it over to another woman like that.  So I want to ask a lawyer about it.   I prefer you live another 20 or 30 years.  But if something happened to you and you had not been married long and she got all that, I'd be pretty pissed off...after all the time I invested.

 

If nothing comes of the consultation, I'll be fine with that.  I just want to make the decisions from an informed position,  and not blindly give away to your next wife something I should possibly be entitled to.  

 

So, because I don't like the idea of your next wife getting the house,  I'm not even sure about signing over the house either, but maybe remain joint-owners instead.  Just to keep it for the kids and Ethan if something happens to you.  

 

We could not both be happy in the house at the same time, because we had different ideas about what to do with it...and I basically could not do any of the things I wanted to do, inside or outside.   But if something happened to you anytime soon, (which I do not want it to) and I could do the house and yard all my way, my taste, and my style, I could easily be happy to live there.   So I'm wondering, why should I throw that home security away?  And  if you should go before I do, and I have the house, then Ethan could continue coming to his "MeMaw and PaPaws" house.   If your next wife gets the house, then the kids and Ethan lose it all.  That just does not sit well with me at all. 

 

My goal:  Whatever it takes to keep her from getting it.  Maybe I'll sign my half over to Shanna or something like that even?   Or maybe you need only stipulate somehow that your future wife does not inherit the house at all.   I don't know what the Texas law is about things like this.  

 

If we leave the deed as is, and remain co-owners,  (if that is even possible ? ) I have no desire to be involved in anything about the house, although, as legal half owner, I'd be legally responsible for half the taxes and Bar X dues, and I'd be glad to pay my half each year.   I just want to stay on the deed mainly to keep her from getting it,  and to make sure Ethan and the kids have access to it, and to take care of my own security in the future.

 

I know the lawyer will want to know about the retirement, so I will wait till I have that information before I talk to one.  After I get it, I'll make an appointment with someone, and if  there's anything to reconsider, we'll talk it out and take it from there.   

 

I very well might not get anything at all.. and I'm ok with that Robin. 

 

I just am not ok with my being stupid enough to hand it over to another woman on a silver platter, no questions asked, without even first checking to see what my legal rights are.  

 

So.. for now, just waiting for the retirement info, then we can move forward after that.