Abuse and the Strongest Sex
writing about my life,i thought i might address abuse, from my point of view,i saw many kinds of abuse, in my life time,including the one used on me. the different kinds of abuse women takes and they talk about men the stronger sex. it was not the woman that said that.
there is the abuse women takes when the man beats the stuffing out of her, she gets her self up, heals, forgives him when he comes to her babbering asking for fogivness, for what ever reason, she love him, scared he will kill her or her children, and she stands there and takes another beating, which one is the strongest,she is, that fool that calls himself a man is a coward. beat another man, no way, it would not cross his mind.
there is mental abuse,
the woman has been busy all day,it is so hot, she fixes a cold salad for dinner, not a plain salad, but filled with different meats and cheeses
and fresh veggies, hubby come home. which is rare in itself, the oldest daughter is on the phone, two younger one, fighting over tv program, first words out of hubbys mouth, you think i want to come home and listen to this shit all night,already passing the buck, see why i am not home, to help raise the raise the children, you should have done better job, have them nice and quiet for me.
put salad in front of him, what the hell do you think i am, a damn rabbit, bed time you feel like some...
next day, what did you do, drop the salt shaker in the soup, you laugh with the children at something on tv. he says, don't be so damn silly, its only t.v.
why are you reading do you think it will make you any smarter? bed time ,you feel like some....
next day i don't have to worry about you running around on me, you are too god damn lazy to go look for someone, can't you keep those kids out of the garden,bed time, you feel like some....
day in and day out for years, who is the strongest, the lady that survived this, raised the three children to love and be kind, or the man that hid cowardness in a bottle and his mouth.that was the abuse i lived thru,
then maybe this is the biggest coward of all, he hides behind his children to take down the woman,
take this woman, she runs her children back and forth to all their activites, cooks for them, kisses their hurts, prays with them before bed,helps with the home work, in walks hubby, bring your toy to me son, your mom hasn't got since enough to fix it, son go tell your mom, get her ass down here,damn woman can never be ready on time, why ask her,she don't know what she is talking about, you think you mother would have learned to cook by now,this is all the children hear , guess who is the stronger here, and guess who the children grew up loving and trying to protect, i was that woman too.
then there a more restrained kind of abuse,
he comes first, no cruel mouth, no beatings, always nice, not intending abuse,he thinks he is not harming anyone, cause he can not feel it, he can not see her needs or wants, he does not listen, he don't hear, cause he is thinking about his self or needs. she could talk till she is blue in the face, she keeps on loving him, and keeps on hopeing , please hear me, i need you to listen to me,please put me and my needs first just this once, every morning she gets up hopeing, and praying maybe he will hear me today. this is a very sad, cause he loves her in his own way.
the marriage will work, because of the love and kindness, but she will never feel complete or be truly happy. because of the love, they will stay togeather.
these are a couple of abuses i have seen or lived through my self, i know there are many more forms of abuse out there, but before i close this page, i want to say, i have also seen women like this, i have seen women abuse their children, their husbands, i actually know two women that beats their husbands,and they just stand there and take it, cause they would never hit a woman, and she knows that. i often think why? why not match up the the man that has to control women, with these women .
be a lot less suffering in this world.
later
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