I never knew Artie but I do know what it is to grieve.
The following short essay sums it up rather well I think (unfortunately, I was not able to determine the author's identity). Please (Prinny, et al) pass it on to Artie's family and friends (note that it's written so that it can be applied to anyone; Dad, son daughter, etc.) ..............
I’m sorry that this happened to you. It isn’t fair. It isn’t fair at all. If I were you I would feel cheated and hurt; I might even be angry that I didn’t get more time with my (Dad, son, daughter, etc.).
You have every right to feel bad. If you want to cry you should. It’s Okay. It’s more than Okay. It’s human, very human. All loving, caring people grieve when those they love are gone. And all of us, every last one of us, will experience this feeling at some point in our lives.
Sometimes we grieve very deeply and for a very long time. Sometimes we get over it and sometimes we do not. Mostly, we just learn to live with it and get on with our lives because there is nothing else we can do. But loving, caring people continue to think about their loved ones no matter how far they get on with their lives because our lost, loved ones continue to live in Heaven.
But, even if we did not believe that or were not really sure if they continue to live in some other place, we do know for sure though, with as much certainty as any scientific theory or philosophical argument can muster, that our loved ones continue to live in our memories and in our lives.
It isn’t wrong to feel sad. It is right, self-evidently right. It means that we love and can be loved. It means that our loved ones continue to live because we continue to miss them. Tears of sadness are really tears of love. Why shouldn’t you cry for your (Dad, son, daughter, etc.)? He/she’s your (Dad, son, daughter, etc.) and you love him/her. Don’t let anyone try to take that away from you.
The freedom to grieve and love is one of the fundamentals of being human. Celebrate your love for your (Dad, son, daughter, etc.) in every way that you can. That is your right, your freedom, your humanness.
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