I have read every single post and not sure what to say.  I also don't want to know what I could go through in 2 year,  (oh my god alana will be a teen in 2 years and one month). 

I don't have any advise really , cos I don't have teens, and seeing from my friends teens they act different from other ages.

I do know that we always tell our kids that we love them heaps and that will never change.  We might not like things they do and desinions they make but they will always be loved.

I also don't have anyone I could  pass them off onto so i could have a break.  But know this I know where you all live and because you have and are ging through this I might send them to you.   waaaaa haaaaaaaaaaaa.