Simple fact is that Heather doesn't own the computer - you do.  My kids do not get to hide stuff in the computer.  I know all the passwords and if they change one, they have to tell me or I block them off the whole system.  I rarely have to look.  There are key pointers for when I need to check what is going on and if I see the markers and they won't tell me what is going on then I will check.  They know the system I use and mostly they find it easier to tell me what is bugging them.

 

Lulu got a strange MSN contact the other day.  Matt from Nelson said he was 13 but wouldn't say how he got her contact.

 

She politely pointed out that she had no proof he was 13 from Nelson and in fact could be 53 from Auckland and a pervert.  Matt was a little shocked I think that someone would think that and backed off.  I'm quite proud of my bimbo child.  She isn't bimbo when it counts.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

i have a brother and sister  should any one feel  like  they  need more chaos ^^

I have read every single post and not sure what to say.  I also don't want to know what I could go through in 2 year,  (oh my god alana will be a teen in 2 years and one month). 

I don't have any advise really , cos I don't have teens, and seeing from my friends teens they act different from other ages.

I do know that we always tell our kids that we love them heaps and that will never change.  We might not like things they do and desinions they make but they will always be loved.

I also don't have anyone I could  pass them off onto so i could have a break.  But know this I know where you all live and because you have and are ging through this I might send them to you.   waaaaa haaaaaaaaaaaa.

Heather is pretty darn good so far but the prospect of Becky becoming a teenager in a couple of years scares the heck out of me.

Try to send me your kids k1w1 and I will discreetly talk to the aussie taxman.  bwahahahahahahahahaha.

 

Like k1w1, one thing that we have always told our kids is that we will always love and support them regardless of what decisions they make and that it is only the bad behaviour we hate, not the kid themself.

 

 

Well - so much for her winding everyone up!!  I got a letter from the school today to say Hannah had wagged more than 2 weeks last term Apparently she is not applying herself, has no interest in school - and they tell me this, just after I paid the NCEA fees! and two weeks after the woodwork teacher sent home a note to say how happy he was that we'd backed her choice of assignment because she was doing so well!!

She's home this weekend, I don't think she'll be back at the flat next week, and I can see she will be looking for either an apprenticeship or a job at Maccas

I am so glad that all that is far behind me.

 

I dont think I would have children if I had my time over - If nothing else, I would be a wealthy man

Well, I'm stoked. I made an appointment with her dean to see what was going on. Apparently she hasn't missed a single wood tech class. The dean called in the deputy principal to see what options there were for her. They are going to fnd her work ex. hopefully at a cabinet makers, failing that with builders, carpenters etc.and then hopefully help us to find an apprenticeship.

On the days she isn't doing work-ex, they want her to attend english and ICT classes, but the rest of the time she is allowed to spend at wood working.

Their attitude was that she knows what she wants to do and staying at school until the end of 7th form won't make much difference to her future.

 

I'm amazed at how much difference it's already made to her! After one day she's lost her loudness, defiance and defensiveness (is that a wordlol) and is looking forward to going to school/work-ex.

 

I take my hat off to both those men, they could have easily put her in the too hard basket and kicked her out of school!

 

Counsellors need to get their heads out of the sand and start living in the real world.  The number of counsellors who are happy to blame everyone else for the child (other than the child) is quite staggering.

 

Shef, glad to see the school are prepared to accommodate your Hannah to make sure she achieves in what she is interested in!

 

Our Hannah, has given up ATC for volleyball (I am NOT happy), has been missing netball to do modelling (still NOT happy) - but somehow has managed to get her 80 credits before exams!

At least she's (obviously) trying at school Beaker - that's really important. Does she have any idea of what she wants to do career-wise?

It's a pity about the ATC, it can be so good for the teens! Better volleyball than hanging around the streets/mall though, and I suppose modelling can teach them some sort of self esteem (though hopefully not too much LOL)

 

 

Ali - it was Napier Girls' High. We had nothing but grief from the principal, so I wasn't expecting too much when I went in, but these two men were incredible! Hannah's already motivated enough to go out (on her own) and visit cabinet-makers and builders to see if they are interested. She's had some positive feedback, which is really giving her incentive!

Hannah really liked her, she didn't have to much to do with her as she only took drums once a week. Apparently Ms Clifton wasn't that fussed on the new principal either, Hannah heard her call her a rather unkind name more than once and pissed herself, she did ask her once and was told that she was a 'woman who had NO idea of true tradition' LOL.