One forgets the incredible depth and vividness of the first love affairs.

 

I tend to think "Time Apart" is the death knell of any relationship.

One forgets the incredible depth and vividness of the first love affairs

 

LB you should be running a kids helpline. Yes I can remember my first heartbreak, I'm sure most of us can. But after four daughters and one son, I know they don't believe me when I say I know how they feel Ask any teen and they'll tell you they're the first to feel this strongly and be hurt so badly.

 

The only advice I can give, Rere, is to text and tell her if she wants you to pick her up for a quick coffee/chat/weep, you'll make excuses to her Mum and let her let off steam. Speaking from experience, breakups may start off amicable, but after a couple of days at school -- someone's always to blame, and regardless if you're the blamer or the blamee -- somewhere along the line it'll turn to shit. All you can do is understand and breathe through it

 

 

Good luck hon

Yeah, I was going to take her out for coffee/hot chocolate, but she has work all day tomorrow and then has an Air Training Corps thing at Ohakea on Sunday.  Then I'm away for most of next week for work.  But I do want to catch up with her soon.

 

She was planning on sitting her learners next week, so I hope she can keep her mind on the topic.

 

Her mum wouldn't have an issue with me grabbing Hannah for a coffee, she'd probably be quite happy seeings Hannah and I do have more than our fair share of arguments.

 

Luckily Hannah and the boy go to different schools on the opposite sides of town.  They'll probably run into each other in town though.

 

I can't say I know how she feels.  I didn't date at college or even polytech.  I dated at 17 but didn't get attached to any of them and wasn't even remotely worried when there was a breakup. I didn't have my first - what you would really define as a proper relationship (living together rah rah rah) until I was 18 - and that lasted 5 years. So Hannah's situation is very foreign to me.

Troy (18) had been going out with his girlfriend since they were 10 or 11, primary school sweethearts They broke up just before xmas, she was devastated, he was too (so was I to see them both hurting so much) She had got drunk and kissed another guy, Troy blew a fuse and dumped her as soon as he found out.  Now he has gone to Broome to Gareth, and she has gone to Uni.  They have been talking on the ph heaps lately and she is all going well going over to join hin middle of next year as long as they still feel the same.  They are so frikin sensible and just sane I cant understand it.  But they think 18 months apart will be a test and they were so young when they first met that they need to grow separately for a while.  They still seem to adore eachother tho. Goodness I bawled my eyes out when they split 

Tyler has got his first girlfriend.  They have been going out for a few months now.  He tells me that he is no way interested in sex and just wants to enjoy himself doing things with her like chatting, going to the mall and movies. 

 

Beaker....I think you have done the right thing by not lecturing her on sex.  She knows all about it and has made the decision herself (although sex under 16 is illegal).  Do take her out for a coffee/hot chocolate and just listen to whatever she says.

 

I am not good on relationship issues as Patrick and I met when I was 19 and he was 22.  Neither of us had any previous boyfriend/girlfriends as we were both more interested in doing things together as a group such as picnics, indoor sports, movies, etc.  Patrick and I married shortly after my 21st birthday and hit our 20th Wedding Anniversary on 26 March.