mmm... after a quick word with her I have found Heather on Bebo and she is showing more than she thinks she is in her profile.
I wonder what she will say when I tell her I was able to find out her school, class and the fact she has be bullied - all that block of info is visible if you know what name to search for (easy peesy).....an the that the new friend asking to contact her is her mother!
After a little more sluthing I will have a wake up call for several of her friends as well.