With Kindly Intent
Someone who is about to admonish another must realize within himself five qualities before doing so [that he may be able to say], thus:
"In due season will I speak, not out of season. In truth I will speak, not in falsehood. Gently will I speak, not harshly. To his profit will I speak, not to his loss. With kindly intent will I speak, not in anger."
"Vinaya Pitaka", translated by F S Woodward,
from "Teachings of the Buddha",
edited by Jack Kornfield.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama