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| | From:  kathyh3 (Original Message) | Sent: 1/1/2009 9:21 PM |
Just wanted to let everyone know my grandmother isn't doing too well. They called from the nursing home today to say they think she had another stroke. Sad thing is, when I was there last week I told them she wasn't right. My mom told them she wasn't right. She couldn't open her mouth and was not responding well. No one checked into it other than grabbing her and yelling "Anna, are you okay?". My gram doesn't talk much but she answered yes when they asked her if she had pain. My parents are there now, and I'm waiting to hear from them. We are expecting the inevitable, but I don't think my mom is prepared enough. Please send some prayers and good vibes that our family can get through this transition in peace and my grandmother doesn't suffer long. I hate going there and seeing her like that. I always wonder if she's suffering like my grandfather did. I'm going to sign off now before I start to babble.....just wanted to check in--I'll try to play Jeopardy when I'm up to it. Thanks guys! |
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 Kathy many many hugs and many warm thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Today was the day my mom died, it was only 2 years ago. I know you will miss your grandma and I also know about the peace you are feeling. HUGS. |
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| | | From: kathyh3 | Sent: 1/5/2009 1:55 PM |
Thanks everyone  Terri, we'll always be bound by that sad day. Gram's funeral is on Thursday. My mom wanted it on Wednesday but thankfully there is another funeral scheduled at the church that day. We're supposed to have a storm on Wednesday. I'm a little bitter about the funeral because only a few people visited my gram in the nursing home and now everyone is coming out of the woodwork. I guess it's the old school way--going to relatives funerals even if you haven't seen them since you were 7. I wanted my mom to make the funeral private, but my gram had already planned it before she got dementia. I've been pretty strong. Except when I'm in the shower. Something about showers and tears that go together. My sister is a mess. She wouldn't leave my grandmother's side the whole time we were there Saturday. My gram has been in the home since June 07 and I can count the times on both hands that my sister had been there. And she drove right past it every day to and from work. I feel sorry for her because I know it was hard for her to go there, and I'm sure she's regretting that she didn't go more often before gram deteriorated. I have no regrets, thankfully. Sorry for rambling....just stuff on my mind. Back to work today, UGH. |
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 Kathy, I am sorry about your grandmother. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you many hugs and love. |
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| | | From: eruth66 | Sent: 1/5/2009 11:40 PM |
Kathy, I am so sorry to hear about your Grandma. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers Loyalkat Sophie |
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Kathy dear, the folks will be coming to the funeral for your mom and you, to show their concern and support for you. Funerals are for the survivors. The deceased have moved on to the next stage in their spiritual journey. They are OK. You certainly did your best for your gran. You are a very loving, caring person! Nursing homes freak a lot of people out. They do me. I visited my mom as often as I could get back to Florida, but just walking through the door froze my soul. I guess it's the dread of ourselves winding up there some day. |
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That is so very true Loving. More hugs to you Kathy |
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| | | From: kathyh3 | Sent: 1/7/2009 6:04 PM |
Tomorrow is the "big day". I'm starting to feel the stress now. School is closed, so I slept until noon today. Yes Loving, the home really freaked out my sister. It did me at first, but I guess you get used to it. Kind of. Well, not really, but you try to be strong. We always had to try to sell my gram on what a great place it was. How fun the activities were. How good the food was. Actually, her home was pretty nice. Although there's a couple people on the staff I would have liked to beat the crap out of. I think one of the things I'm secretly afraid of is that no one will come to the funeral. That would kill my mom. I know it won't happen, but it's always in the back of my mind. On a lighter note, my head infection has healed nicely and the dime-sized bald spot I have should disappear in awhile. I still have a few days treatment and hopefully it won't come back.  |
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Kathy, dear, I will be thinking about you all day tomorrow. I'm sure the funeral will be lovely. I hope you and your family will find comfort from it. Woohoo on your head booboo healing! I am so glad. It's about time you got some good news. Many hugs and warm cuddles.   |
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Oh Kat, I am so glad it went well. When my dad was sick with cancer he had it two times and also had a stroke he was only 56 when he died, I thought he looked so much better after it was over, he had suffered so much, I too was at peace with his passing and not seeing him in pain any more was such a relief. Take care friend... Witty |
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Kathy dear, I am so glad your faith carried you through the funeral with peace and serenity. I was thinking about you and sending you stong peaceful thoughts. I hope your mom is ok. |
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Oh Kathy I am so sorry to hear about your grandma...I'm trying to catch up on older posts and just now read this.  My prayers are with you and your family... Nursing homes freak me out, but so do funerals themselves (esp. funeral homes...I can never go up close to the casket, creeps me out). I hear ya about relatives coming out of the woodwork...when my grandma died 3 years ago, I was kinda freaked out by all the long-lost relatives. I knew the funeral would be huge, because she had a huge circle of friends and family, but people I don't know running up to me and making small talk, etc., when I'm not in a state of mind to do so, makes me uncomfortable...even though they mean well... Anyway, cuddles, and hang in there... |
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