.... another note I wanted to add on here about something that came to me today as I was leaving his house.
I had been contemplating some things... and I imagined telling his girlfriend Sandra that the way Robin takes care of his possessions is the way he takes care of his wife and family. (he doesn't)
And as I imagined having that kind of conversation, it suddenly hit me.....
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... Robin does not take care of his possessions because he does not get anything out of them. He can't suck them dry or feed off them like he does people.
I never could figure out why he never takes care of any of his things... he never treats them with any sense of value or respect or appreciation.... he just tosses his stuff here and there.... or lets it lay around collecting dust. Most men at the very least love their trucks... but Robin never even acted that way towards his trucks over the years. And it always kind of bothered me too. I kept seeing that something was missing in him along those lines, but couldn't put my finger on it, until today.
And just like possessions.... once he cannot get what he wants out of a person.... they become disposable as well... to be tossed, ignored, set aside, put away..... wether it's his family, his friends, his mom..... anybody. If they have something he needs or wants from them.. it's all smiles and lovely dovey and charm and kindness. But if there isn't anything he wants..... he doesn't have any feelings for them at all.
In other words... I realised today that, to Robin, people are also no more than meer possessions... to use and toss when your through getting from them what you wanted at the moment.
He has never fully committed to anything at all. He 'dabbles' in things.. but doesn't ever let himself get very deeply involved... in anything... no hobbies and not even in people. Not even his wife, or kids, or grandson. When Ethan used to spend the night..... it didn't take long before Robin was ignoring Ethan and sitting in his chair watching some kind of violent show on tv ... (that I did not think Ethan should have to see or listen to... he couldn't avoid those kind of shows even for the short while his grandson was in the home with us.. and I never understood such selfishness on his part in that area... )
I even told him once that I felt no different than his guitar... take me out and play me for a little while, and then stick me away to collect dust till the next time he got interested again. It was like talking to a brick wall.
As I left the house this morning though.... thinking about how he has totally totally ignored it, and is not even staying there hardly at all now... and just goes there on the weekends to mow the grass.... it just all became so clear. He has no sense of "responsibility"... no sense of "obligation"..... he is only, only out to satisfiy his needs and cravings.... and the house could fall apart as far as he's concerned, because he does not really value it at all. I did all of the work out there... except for him riding the lawnmower. wow....
He talks about what he wants to do to the house and property ... but what has he done....? Nothing. Because he does not really "care" about it. The total truth is, Robin does not really care about anything at all... except himself.
And this morning it just hit me so clear that the state of that house ..... and of his things inside the house.... are a 100% picture of how he also treats people. There is not one single possession of any kind that I have ever seen treated with any sense of respect or with a sense of it's value. None. And if he'd had his way... he'd have tossed all his mothers things.. no matter if they were 100 year old family antiques or not. He has no sense of value about anything. Nothing is of value... except that which feeds and satisfies his desires. And once he's fed and satified..... toss it aside .... throw it in a closet or the drawer.. or whatever.... and forget about it.
I left the house and that subdivision this morning so grateful I had been saved and delivered ... from being one of his neglected possessions. 
And I also have no intention of warning Sandra about it, like the imagined conversation I had in my head. I'm staying totally out of it all. How fast she gets wise to him will reveal how much smarts she has, or does not have.
I'm just gonna live my own free and happy life.... like I did with Ethan at the beach today.
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