Why Can Lovers Never Be Friends??? You start out in an almost "Magical or Ethereal State of Mind" He or She makes your palms wet, and your tummy turn over, or your member twitch if you are a man... When you see one another the emotion is so strong you can cut the air with a knife, As you get to know one another more intimately, whether in person or "cyber love" that bond gets tighter and tighter... If you take it to the next level of actually being together, you take "destiny into your hands." It feels like the Gods have opened up the Heavens just for you! You meet the family, you meet the grandchildren, you love them all. They are hesitant but you only see your mate and he appears to only see you at least for a time. Then the usual daily rituals take place, you talk, you cook, do chores, make parties, try to get his or her kids to accept you, but you cannot buy or earn love.  It has to be given freely and if you have to "beg for it" honey you are playing with yourself. All the moves that are really "life altering have to be yours" due to your "station in life." So you take your time, so you think and wait a year, two, and then you start to put plans into place to make this a "Reality" not a part time Dream or Romantic Holiday You cannot be "in love" and not perform or need or want. That is biologically not possible, remember go back to the time when you both did have "chemistry" there were no long silences, excuses, you could not wait to be together anyway you could and it thrilled you and filled you, that is when you could have or should have made a move. But now it is down to loving each other dearly and sweetly at times but mostly breaking each others hearts cause neither can let go of what? Now? NO! The memories of what once was, or the loss of what one of you wants but you are no longer on the same page... We can send a man to the moon, but we cannot talk calmly and lovingly to the one person on earth we need to hear us, understand us and if they still can "love us." So someone, clue me in, "Why can Lovers never be really friends.?" If you fill your void with another, you heal quicker, don't you think like a husband or a wife your ex lover knows? duh? Something has to give and what is soo terribly sad is you will lose that "magic" you once had for the rest of your life. You may be picking the wrong choice. When we listen to other than our hearts we always lose! Big Time. So never ask "Have I lost you? The answer is NO darling "you threw me away for something more rewarding to your needs." I rest my case your Honour...  this is dedicated to all those who have loved and have lost their loved one or are about too.