Andrea,first of all,CONGRATS, on 5 years together. They say if you can make it past the 5 year mark,then you will prolly stay together..lol
On my 5 year wedding anniversary,we went to a nice Hotel,with a night club,pub,dance,pool,lounges,etc. It was really nice. I would suggest doing something like that. You can find great discount coupons on the net,so if you have a hotel in mind,look on their website and see what special packages they have to offer.Get candles,rose pedals,champange and chocolates and set the room up real romantic. If you don't want to go to a hotel,just set your bedroom up with those things.Hopefully this will help. I wish you both all the luck in the world and I understand about the struggling and fighting. Good luck and have fun!!!