My sister, who is 3 years older than I am, constantly makes plans for my family.  When I had plans for my husband and I to do the concession stand for a ball game she said, "We can do it together so John and Jeremy (her husband) can stay home with the kids."  She then turns and crosses off John's name and puts hers!  Then she signs me up for another day!  It's upsetting my hubby because I don't want to hurt her feelings.  I try to stand up to her but she just gets mad at me.

 

Then she always compares our size.  I wear one size bigger than her.  I'm also 7 inches taller than her.  So when something doesn't fit she makes comments like "This is way too big for me!  Maybe you can squeeze into it."  It really makes me mad but she just laughs it off, saying that she didn't mean it that way.  I've had it!  Any advice on how to deal with my bossy sister without hurting her feelings?  If she gets mad at me she won't let her kids have anything to do with me.    Ridiculous but I put up with a lot for my nephews!