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| | | From: over (Original Message) | Sent: 5/23/2004 3:53 PM |
could TRIGGER someone, sure got me goin'....... > > > > short and not-so-sweet......found out yesterday my 13 year old grandaughter is cutting, her arm's a mess (none of the cuts look too deep though)....... it's a cry for help right now....her mother's blowing it, big time....i get a little glimpse of the future, and it ain't good..... i just don't know what to do here i just don't believe it....... |
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 Iam glad she has alot of support as well as loving family members..Sorry to hear about her Mom..Those teen years are rough ones..Hope things work out..Wishing you all the best..You and your family are in my prayers.. |
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| | | From: over | Sent: 6/3/2004 2:15 AM |
gotta update this one.....and my apologies to my daughter Carrie, she isn't as bad as all that though she is having a tough time right now.....parents always second-guess, think they could/did do better, I remember how I felt about criticism from my and the wife's parents. I have been somewhat (maybe not totally) unfair..... We took the kid home that weekend, and within 30 seconds she got into a screaming fight with her mother, who didn't do anything at all to bring that on. Yanna has always had that kind of relationship with Carrie, and I wonder if their early years with us just kinda skewed the relationship. We're all so volatile, and these are tough positions to be in, tough to know the right things to do (we were all younger then....<sigh>). But hindsight is 20-20, always....we done the best we could, and Carrie is doing the same. Yanna is getting along better most days now, but she's hanging out with some real skanky people (older than her, she's 13), so that'll be an ongoing worry. Ah well, that's life, I guess....... |
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| | | From: 2many | Sent: 6/4/2004 1:11 PM |
reminds me of my niece, she started cutting at 13, was also into taking pills and drinking, plus has an on again off again problem with not eating enough (one of the few things in her life she can control), none of which her parents had a clue about, and never did find out, i dont think. i remember having a lot of talks with her, she settled down a bit eventually, but had a t least one good scare that i know of, her "boyfriend" at the time drank so much at a party that he got really sick and pretty much freaked everyone out. she was dxd bp back then and put on meds, she was also seeing someone, which i think helped more on the meds. she didnt last long taking those, didnt like the way they made her feel. but shes doing ok now, most part, although she told me about a year ago she had tried drugs, i think i scared her off of that as well (hoping??), shes probably more mature then her parents at this point (definitely more so then her dad). anyway, i say this to answer your post. 13 seems to be a really tough age, and if there are problems with getting along with their parents on top of it, that seems to make things worse. i really hope your grandaughter is just going through a rough patch and this isnt going to last or get worse. she needs someone who can talk to her without freaking out, someone who wont treat her different, but who will just listen and give advice and talk to her. i think with my niece, knowing i wasnt going to freak out and tell her parents helped a lot, made her realise there was someone out there who cared no matter what. (i did threaten at one point to tell her parents if she didnt stop the drinking, soon after though, the incident with her boyfriend happened). i can understand her mom freaking out though, that was my first reaction as well, more so because i knew what she was going through maybe. there should be some articles pam and i have posted here on cutting, perhaps printing them up so she can read them and have more of an understanding? if there is anything else i can do to help, let me know, you have my #. i hope things improve for all of you.... |
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| | | From: over | Sent: 6/16/2004 12:24 PM |
Just an update on this here....but first, a thanks to Jen & Pam for understanding words. Hope your neice is doing ok now, Jen....... Apparently Carrie & Yanna have been getting along better the last couple of weeks. Carrie made an appointment for yesterday with the family Dr., to get a referral for counselling. If referred by an MD, the counselling is paid for by the gov't......... Yanna didn't want to go, at first....the app't was yesterday and I drove them to and from (and looked after a 3 year old monkey, lol). Carrie appeared outside after a few minutes, Yanna wanted a one-on-one with the Dr., which lasted a while. Then we all went and got ice cream (and Yanna just had to have a Neo-Pets magazine). The kid seemed much happier after, as usual she wouldn't discuss it but seemed a little more at peace. She is very inscrutable though (I posted her pic)I pray that she isn't just going along with us & has other plans. I think it'll be ok though. |
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| | | From: over | Sent: 5/14/2005 1:49 AM |
Feel the need to update a bit..........Yanna's doing well, typical 14 year old with perhaps wisdom beyond her years. If she can sail the rough seas of teenage-hood, she'll do great. But then, all our lives are a work in progress.......... And I am so happy to say that daughter Carrie is doing great. I was sure we were going to lose her last year, now she's taking the bipolar med I had to stop, and it's working better than we had hoped. She's working, living here with "da girls", and with a couple of breaks we'll all prosper.....well, survive, anyway, to see another day. I have taken my rightful place as the craziest in the family, that's as it should be. I carry the karma.......... And I am so happy to thank y'all for support and friendship, maybe I don't do it often enough. I should, 'cause you never know what's going to happen, and this is the excellent business that should not be left unfinished. It's been a ray of light in sometimes dark places........ And thanks for the peanut butter cookies........... |
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| | | From: 2many | Sent: 5/14/2005 4:47 AM |
ummm (looks under keyboard) i didnt get any cookies???? |
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| | | From: over | Sent: 5/14/2005 1:48 PM |
critters musta got 'em.......... |
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| | | From: 2many | Sent: 5/23/2005 9:08 PM |
AHHH HAAAA!! shame on you pam! Mika isnt supposed to have sugar! youre in trouble now  |
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| lmao..not my fault she snatched it up..who knew she liked peanut buuter cookies?..this is between you and her!..mika does alot of things she isn't suppose to do..just an fyi..lol..:P |
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| | | From: 2many | Sent: 5/23/2005 9:13 PM |
wow, pam, does she know you tattle on her too?? |
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| lol..not tattling..she emailed me saying it was cool as i wouldn't have said this otherwise..hey, don't ask me..this was her idea..she has a plan but that's all i can say!..:P |
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Thanks for the update, Jim..Iam so glad Yanna and Carrie are doing good!..:)
(((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))) |
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