i would really think about getting fixed all this is all said and done though

As I have read this thread over the past few days; I have been through a gamut of emotions....I felt anger, sadness and just an overall wish that you seek help.  You had unprotected sex and now have a new life growing; you accepted a proposal and now are vacillitating away from that.  You are with someone whom your child doesn't care for....You have had so many warning signals that things weren't right.  You have been concerned about this relationship for awhile and still you continued.  There are no happily ever endings to most stories and I think that is what you are seeking.  You need to look at all aspects of your decisions and not doing anything rashly.  You need to speak with your counselor and dr. and see the short term and long term effects of your decisions.  I am very worried about you at this time.  Please seek professional help and guidance right away.

i agree with Dawnie andi really hope noone gets mad at me but to me i dont believe in abortions unless you are a victim of rape or something and in this case think about adoption if anything please there is so many people out there that want kids and cant have none i know its hard and i know your life can be on hold if you have this baby after having a 13 year old but just think about it though so many people out there is a single parent though but they do it everyday i was always taught you layed down with someone and you get preagant you riase that baby with all you can dont give up cause thats your blood thats your angel (god sent)

I'm pro choice.  I'm very thankful for the right to have had the opportunity to choose.  I chose to continue with my last pregnancy.  Even when everyone around me suggested termination due to the circumstances in my life.  I went back and forth on the decision.  This decision to continue the pregnancy was one of the better decisions I've ever made my life.  Was our/his life easy?  No!  Was it worth it?  Absolutely!

 

You are not the victim here.  I'm sure you learned what causes babies a long time ago.  Birth control has been a part of our society for several years now and termination of a pregnancy IS NOT a form of birth control.  What ever your decision will be...I strongly reccomend that you take all precautions necessary to keep from repeating this ordeal.  Getting out and keep out of a toxic relationship is a start!

nothing comes easy i know that for a truth

I would like to thank some of you for your words of wisdom, its interesting to hear what complete strangers will say to you even though they don't know you (which is probably sometimes easier) .  I am completely pro-choice and I do believe it is a womens right to have an abortion. I am lucky to live in a country that up holds this understanding of choice, and knowing that I will not be riticuled for my choices. In saying that I don't necessarily think either that it should be used as a form of birth control or away to get out of bad decisons. And, I do not agree that it should only be done if you're a victim of rape or certain circumstances either. Women have so many limitations as it is, why continue creating them and deny her a right to decide what is right for her and her body.

As for adoption, again that is a personal choice which I do not feel that I could do. You can call that selfish or not but its still my choice.

Yes, I may not be a victim in this and I have made many bad choice which I need to look into further but I am also a person with feelings and real emotions.  I'm not perfect, as I know allot of us aren't.

Anyways, an update to my current situation is that I went to the clinic to get an examination done today (blood test, internal ultrasound, councelling, etc.), and I found out that my pregnancy is an "ectopic pregnancy" (pregnancy growing in the fallopian tubes rather than the uterus). So no matter what my decision would have been, I wouldn't have be able to continue the pregnancy. 

I think the bottom-line is that I originally posted my message to get help and advise in the time of need, not peoples personal options about how they feel about abortion or how they thought about a complete strangers problems.  I just wanted someone to help me make an biased decision and not make me feel as bad as I already did about the whole situation (thank you to thoughs who weren't there to judge).  I just hope people can have more compassion and be more open minded towards others beliefs. 

Anyways, I too will get off the soup box and leave it at that.  Thank you to all that have replied to my post.

 

Scarlette,

I don't think anyone meant any harm by what was said, there was concern in all those that I read and even in mine.  You are and have been in a difficult situation from your posts and people responded.  Some topics no matter how you view them are hot buttons for folks.  I am sorry about the pregnancy and wish you the best in your recovery.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

i sure didnt mean to you hurt your feelings if i did

Thank you  missmyasia, desertdawnie & tinycat2 for all your help, I greatly appreciate and feel fortunate to receive your advice.

dont cry sassy you will make me

I'm sorry Sassy, your response was very helpful. Allot of the people who posted their help and advice were extremely helpful and kind, while others were plain old hurtful.

 

Anyways, thank you to all! :-)