My definition of the neocon is a generally paranoid imbecile who is politically active and vocally loud, without substance, who is more concerned about what "others" do in their private lives, than common matters of real concern and substance that really do affect us all as a society.
For example, global warming and climate change don't exist. The war in Iraq was just, and we're winning it. The US is under enormous threat from foreign terrorism, to the point where we need Homeland Security to feel safe enough to go to the store, and believe the trillions dollars price tag that is dragging down every other aspect of our economy is worth the cost.
Gay marriage is a threat to American society and will undermine the institution of marriage. Self appointed people say so.
Abortion is also a threat to American society. On both matters, God will abandon us. Since when does God ever tell anyone, to tell someone else what they should do?
Xer is right to a point, but the horse isn't dead. The same ignorance is capable of erupting in a new form to back the shift in thought and power, if we are not individually and collectively diligent to tackle it, as we did in defeat of what McCain et al represented.
Personal responsibility is the key here. If two people want to get hitched, hook up, and have legal benefits afforded two hitched people, let them. If they want to call it something else, let them. If a woman wants an abortion, let her get it, if she can. She has to live with the consequences. God knows, I taught enough kids whose parents didn't give a shit about them... kids whose parents would drop them off for their concert, and ask what time to come and pick them up...
I think all of us here are pretty dang personally responsible, which is why the camaraderie. Ever visit a "board" infested with neocons?