Hello FLushie ,
Sorry I have not answered your post before now .
I am so pleased that you are now living in a safe place and that you are happy .
A very Happy 1 year anniversary to you getting a new happier and safer life.. This is GREAT News and wonderful to hear....
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face."
You are right Flushie, This is so very very true .
You say
You have been
'offered something; an easy-does-it, go at my speed friendship with a very sweet, intelligent man.
The only problem is, I'm terrified. The more I thought about it, the less I wanted to do it. I caught myself searching for flaws in him that "should" make me wary.'
This is not a bad thing ,in my opinion you should always be on your guard about your safety and such things .
You prehaps do not need to be terrified of them but be aware that the problems can and do ,as you well know from experience do arise.
By being aware that people do change and we never really get to know a person really well until you live with them.
You do deserve some happiness in your life ,and I truly hope that this man that you have met , is as you say sweet, intelligent man. I also hope he is an honest,understanding ,patient, loving and kind man.
Personally I would still take things very slowly and take time to get to know each other better BEFORE you go into any long term or permanent commitment.
As you say Nobody here would dream of hurting you for 1 second . We truly only want what is good for you and for you to be safe and happy .
At the end of the day you have to consider Isobels well being as well as your own ..
You both deserve to be loved and cared for in a kindly way .
I think it is wonderful that you have found family and that you are on the road to coming to terms with your past .
Flushie , always remember that you are a good , kindly loving lady ; with a lot of love to give to the right person. BUT You deserve to be treated with respect , love , kindness and loyalty .
Whatever you decide to do ,I pray that thing will be wonderful and that you and your daughter will both be very very happy ..
Take care and God Bless you
Good Luck to you both ..
Hugs Jan {Aunty J}
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