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| | From:  bonescb (Original Message) | Sent: 5/29/2008 11:58 PM |
He sent me an email stating he wants to divorce me. He broke up with me through an email!!! He says that I have put him through hell. He went to see his attorney today and he wants to give me a settlement. The side-job money is no-where to be found. He said he does not do side jobs, bull-crap!!!!! I know his mother has put her big fat orders to him on keeping it away from me. They are all so mean to me. He said it does not matter that he cheated and that Michigan is a NO FAULT STATE for divorces. He said it does not matter that he abused me, they can not hold it against him. I am supposed to except this offer and run along like a big loser. I have to find me an attorney that will give me justice and a fair trial. Don says it does not matter that he did anything to me and that he is not accountable for any cruelty he has put on me. I am a wreck and yet it is the best thing for me to be free of him. If I get a fair settlement (which I know there will not be), then I will agree. He is greedy and evil. (God please help me through this nightmare.) I am trying to be calm through this hell. It hurts so bad. Take care my precious pain-pals. Oceans of love, Ingrid P.S. You can feel free to call me on my cell phone. (231) 638-3188. I need my sisters right now. I am lost. I just want to stop crying and shaking. Ok, thanks in advance. |
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Ingrid, I am so very sorry that you are going through this. I pray that our Heavenly Father will give you the strength that you need to get through each day. And to keep you in his care during your time of need. Hun, I can call you anytime, just let me know when it is good for you b/c I don't know about the time difference between us. And right now you cry all you want, it does hurt when they do something mean like this. Just know that we are all here for you, sending our love and prayers Hugs~T |
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Ingrid, I am so angry that he chose something as impersonal and cowardly as an email to end the relationship. What a horribly hurtful thing to do. You are right, you will be better off without him, but that doesn't heal the hurt or make any of this easier. I personally hate it when my husband denies any wrongdoing. It's like they all live in a "no fault" MENTAL state. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I will keep you in my prayers and pray that God takes you with great gentleness through this pain. Hugs, Jolene |
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WHAT A COWARD HE IS MY FRIEND WE HAVE BEEN VERY CLOSE FRIENDS FOR THE PAST 3 YEARS. WE HAVE TALKED BY PHONE FOR HOURS AT A TIME. WE HAVE LAUGHED WE HAVE CRIED TOGETHER.THIS MAKES ME MAD BEYOND WORDS.YOU WILL BE BETTER OFF WITH OUT THIS MONSTER. HE HAS BEEN SO CRUEL TO YOU. PLEASE REMEMBER THE WORDS I HAVE SAID TO YOU. OUR FATHER IS WATCHING OVER YOU HE LOVES YOU AS WE ALL HERE DO. I KNOW HOW HURT YOU ARE RIGHT NOW BUT I ALSO KNOW HOW BAD YOU WANT OUT.PLEASE KNOW HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU WILL TRY TO GIVE YOU A CALL TODAY. HANG IN THERE OK |
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Ingrid sweetie I am so sorry for the pain and suffering you are having and going through. I wish I was there to give you a big hug and support right now. You are in the first stage and it really hurts and I pray now that God will put His loving arms around you to calm your nerves and fears. Only God can give us peace of mind and calm our storm and believe me I have been through many in my life. Your hubby sounds like so many men who choose the easy copout and I pray you do get away from him for good. I know now nuttin much helps the pain of abuse and broken heart and shatter dreams. If you can please focus on how bad he was to you and this will help you to stay strong and have the courage to do what you need to do now. I know myself, I always wanted to say it was my fault in my mind because men in general love to blame us women for their bad habits and ways. But it is not you or me or any of us in here when we meet a prince who turns into a snake. Us women have so much more love and forgiveness in our hearts and this is why we end up trusting men to not hurt us but when they do it breaks our hearts because we have sacrificed so much just to put up with them and tried and help them, but it never gets better. We try to make things work because that is who we are and we give it our best but some men will never change and you have to decide is this going to be my life "HELL" everyday or am I going to finally say get out and mean it!!! Once you go through the hurt phase, the angry phase and then the I can see clearly now, and moving on phase, you will be amaze at the strength you will have and you will feel like a ton of bricks just been lifted off of your shoulders. I pray Dear Father right now please calm Ingrid, give her peace of mind so she can rest and help her to stay strong and I pray you will give her courage, wisdom and just hold her near you now I pray in your loving arms of protection. Please I pray you will help her find a good lawyer who will help her and get what she deserves that is rightfully hers, I pray Dear Father the truth will come out and you will help her see the light ahead insted of the storms that clouds up her mind and wrecks her body of exaustion, but let her feel peace and joy, I pray in Jesus Christ Name Amen. I love you Ingrid and pray you will feel better soon my friend. I used to sing the song "Unbreak My Heart "over and over when I was alone after 33yrs. and my hubby wanted a divorce and all I could think about was please Lord take me in my sleep "But" He didn't and He said He was not finish with me yet, so I am here to help you who hurt so much because I know the pain first hand. I can honestly say God is the only one who got me through my storms of so much pain and heartache, and He will help you too just ask Him ok. Now I sing the song "It's Getting Easier All The Time" but it does not happen over night and does take time to heal. If you could see inside my heart you would see so many tears, breaks, and wounds but thank God He is putting my heart back together with super glue/love and lots of wisdom from Him to know the difference between the good and bad people in the world. When you hurt I hurt and when you cried I cry because there is nothing like loving someone who only wants to hurt you and distroy the love you have inside but he turns it into a living nightmare of Hell and rage that makes you feel like you are going to explode inside. So go ahead and cry and scream out if it helps you whatever helps the pain just do it but do it safely and do not hurt yourself or anyone else. I remember I would be alone here and scream out, cry out, and drive in my car crying. I had to get out of the house and drive to help ease my heartbreak and all of my dreams shattered. I had no idea that one day I would be helping other women but I guess this is where God wants me to be for I do feel for you and bear your pain even though I am not there with you or actually met you in person. I do know from reading your posts that you seem so sweet and kind and I pray your joy and happiness will return to you and just tell God what you need and have faith He will do it for you, because I am living proof that without God I would not be here posting right now. Hugs I am on central time and if you need me just leave me a message in my mailbox because I do try to check it each day. Your friend In Christ Love MaggieSunshine |
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| | | From: bonescb | Sent: 5/30/2008 12:46 PM |
My state of residence is Michigan. I really appreciate all the support and love. My nerves are shot and I feel very sick to my stomach. I can not take anymore of this pain from him. I wish I had the knowledge (hence forth) to know what the end results will be for me. I feel like screaming and crying and Lord knows I wish I did not have this pain. Don is a cruel and evil person. My sister-in-law (Vickie / Dons sister) usually stays here off and on a lot. My neice (her daughter) said that she was told by Vickie to not come around when I was in Calif. She says now she knows why her Mom was told this. Don said he will deny all the affairs and side-jobs he has done. Don has made good money through all these years. But, it is hidden from me. He said the guy who he is partnered with this business will deny the jobs too. How can I win this war? He is trying to make me suffer. He wants everything and me out of the house. God please help me with this nightmare. I am so sick to my stomach. I feel like my whole body is dying. I am sick with a ton of health issues, he said it is not his problem. Please help me God. |
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Thinking of you and sending prayers hun Love and Hugs~T |
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I'm sorry he had to be so cruel to do this through an email...but maybe it kept you from his violence, but was cowardly on his part. Do not lose your faith, God will get you through this, somehow, I know He will. You may lose the battle, but will win the war! love & Prayers, kat |
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| | | From: AuntyJ9 | Sent: 6/4/2008 1:26 PM |
Dear Ingrid , It is horrible that you have to go through all this . It hurts you so much when you know in your heart that you do not deserve to be treated in the way he is treating you . You gave your all and have gotten NO thanks from him. It is discusting and a cowardly way for him to say these things to you in an e mail ... If you can get copies printed off with all his lies denials it may help when you get the divorce . I do not know for sure but it might help .. Keeping you in my prayers . Hugs Jan (aunty J) |
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| | | From: bonescb | Sent: 6/6/2008 1:52 PM |
Thank you sisters. I am having a sad day today. The memories are slapping me around. The tears are from being so overwhelmed. If I could only erase him from my mind right now. He thinks he is a God and untouchable from all his abuse to me. I pray the judge will not fall for his shit. He is a master at lies and deception. I have to shake this feeling because it is tearing me down right now. If only I could erase him from my mind right now. Take care my precious pain-pals. Oceans of love, Ingrid |
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| Ingrid, I will be praying that God quiets your mind today and gives you a chance to rest and have clarity of thought. One day at a time, sweetie. That's all you have to do, ok? God bless! Jolene |
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Ingrid, you are a loving,caring,beautiful person and I am very thankful to have you in my life. I wish I knew of a way to take all of your pain away. You are in my thoughts and I am sending prayers your way. Love and Hugs~T |
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| | | From: bonescb | Sent: 6/6/2008 8:44 PM |
Sisters: I have an appointment to see a counselor Thursday @ 10:00 am on June 12th. And a Legal Aid Lawyer Tuesday @ 5:20 pm on June 10th. God is working some miracles on me. I still have to be mindful of the situation and not get to relaxed, he is one to come in for the kill when I have my guard down. I am blessed to have such wonderful sisters as I do here. Brenda thanks for the phone call today. I really needed your "Mother Hen" talk. I love each and everyone of you so much. Have a happy and safe weekend. Take care my precious pain-pals. Oceans of love, Ingrid |
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| | | From: AuntyJ9 | Sent: 6/18/2008 8:59 PM |
You are in my prayers Ingrid ,try to stay strong .He has damaged you mentally and physically .Dont let him do you any more harm . God Bless you and keep you safe . Hugs Jan (Aunty J) |
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| | | From: bonescb | Sent: 6/20/2008 8:33 PM |
Thank you Aunty J. your support means the world to me. Don is a monster and he thinks he is untouchable. I only pray that God will see to it that I am vindicated. Oceans of love, Ingrid |
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