How can family and friends help a depressed person?

The very nature of depression can interfere with a person's ability to seek assistance. Depression saps energy and self-esteem. It makes a person feel tired and may prevent him/her from taking action toward self-care. Help from others can mean the difference between suffering and recovery. Anyone who cares can:

• offer emotional support – this is the most important thing you can do. It involves understanding, patience, affection, and encouragement. Engage the depressed person in conversation and listen carefully. Do not criticize feelings expressed, but point out realities and offer hope.
• see that the depressed person gets an accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment – this may require you to make an appointment and accompany your depressed friend or family member to the doctor.
• be sure medications are taken as instructed.
• encourage the person to comply with treatment until the symptoms of depression begin to abate (several weeks), or to seek different treatment if no improvement or uncharacteristic behavior occurs.
• remind the person to obey doctor's orders about the use of alcoholic products while on medication.
• invite the depressed person for walks, outings, to the movies. Suggest active pursuits such as exercise, art classes, or discussion groups. Try to motivate participation in activities that once provided pleasure. Be gently insistent if your suggestions are refused – becoming involved with other people can take the person’s mind off of personal troubles.
• reassure the depressed person that, with time and help, he or she will feel better.
• be alert for suicidal thoughts, words or acts, and seek professional help immediately if they occur.

How can depression in the elderly be prevented?

Although it may seem like a great many seniors suffer from depression, the majority handle the challenges of aging with at least philosophical acceptance. They enjoy being grandparents, find new activities to replace those they can no longer do, and remain relatively content with their lives. They may be saddened by their losses, but they are not depressed. Most seniors continue to feel happiness, joy, contentment, and other positive emotions.

Some ways to prevent depression include:

• Social interaction such as support groups that deal with losses and changes
• Staying in contact with family, friends, and neighbors
• Participating in absorbing activities
• Volunteering to help others
• Learning a new skill, such as emailing, cooking, or gardening
• Sharing jokes and humorous stories (there are even humor classes for seniors)
• Maintaining a healthy diet
• Exercise, exercise, exercise!