Stages of Healing These are necessary to do, but it is not in a set order. First make the decision to Heal. Keep this promise to yourself and make a commitment to continue on with the healing. Remembering Many survivors suppress the memories of what happened to them when they were so very young. The remembering of your past is just another step to healing. You have to get your feelings and trust in yourself back and the pain will pass, I promise. Let it out When you talk to another person or group setting about your experience it will help to remove the shame of being a victim. Knowing it was not your fault Some believe the abuse is their fault. No, it is not, put the blame where it belongs, on the abuser. Trust yourself Learn to trust your own feelings again. Give yourself some credit and faith that you will be okay. Mourning This is a struggle, but one that can be a very useful tool. Grieve for your pain and give it a time to let go. Time to let go is now. You can do it. Anger This is a powerful force to be sure of. Directing this energy at the abuser and the people who were supposed to protect you and chose to turn their heads and let it happen. This is a huge step to face, but necessary. Your healing steps are coming along great. Forgiveness This is a consideration for yourself. Though to forgive makes forgetting easier to achieve. Aquire your souls power Religion, meditation, support groups are all positive choices to take in the process of healing. God Bless and be well! |