I am so sorry you are having man problems, Blair.  I don't have any good advice for you, but I am here and you can write me personally if you wish. Clyde is my best buddy, too. They are always so loving and never, ever hurtful. However, please keep having faith that the right one will be sent to you someday!

Rhonda

Blair

 

I am sorry you were hurt again.   Sometimes life doesn't seem fair.  I am with you though, I know the love of your dogs and children is innocent and true and doesn't get much better. 

 

I too had an ugly divorce.  In fact it is coming up on three years now.   I can count the dates I have been on on one hand .. in fact, maybe three fingers.   I concentrated on healing myself and my children and sort of put that other part of my life on the back burner.     I guess when and if it happens, it will be a surprise. 

 

Maybe your guy friend served a good purpose for you by helping you get beyond the pain of your divorce.  Even though it ended up painful, he might have actually helped you more than you know.    It is true you have to kiss alot of frogs .. .and sometimes kissing frogs can be fun too.   You are a young, beautiful woman who has alot going for you.    Appreciate and love yourself first and I am sure the rest will fall into place for you!!!  Remember, you deserve a really good man so don't settle for anything else.

 

Hugs -

 

Jennifer

Blaire I know how you feel before I met Stephen (literally the day b4) I had been with a guy for 11 months, I was CRAZY about him, he had just got out of the navy and he had been hurt blah blah long story short I had my suspitions first I caught him smoking which I didn't think he did and then I caught him in a bar with another chick. But you know things do happen for a reason, I found Stephen the next day and I wouldn't ever have looked twice if I were still in that relationship, then my ex tried to get me back 4 months later on my birthday, I had moved away to college, then like a year later he tracked me down and begged me to just have lunch with him. I was just like fine ok well he hit on me and was being stupid. Then come to find out that was the day before his wedding to the girl he was with in the bar. So you know I didn't need that.

Point being there is someone who is right for you out there

this is my fav. quote its on my myspace

"Living with Integrity:

Not settling for less than you deserve in relationships.

Asking for wht you want and need from others.

Speaking Truth even if it may cause conflict or tension.

Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values and making choices based on what you believe!"

Don't be afraid to tell guys "hey guess what NO BS I've been hurt and I have kids if you are going to come into my life make sure its something you want, and can handle being a part of cause I'm not just along for the ride. If you can't handle it then bye if you are up for it then don't jump ship as soon as things get a little tough."

Hi Blair,

So sorry that happened to you.  I think we've all kissed a lot of frogs before we found a prince. Sounds like you're a pretty accepting person of others faults.  You need to talk to yourself and make a decision of what behavior is acceptable and what is not and when you see the unacceptable put on the brakes so you won't get ran over again.  Sounds harsh but ladies have a 6th sense, lol.

Your right.  Like Dr. Phil says about parents and their children is that their parents should always be a soft place to fall if things go bad and our dogs are our soft place to fall.  They love us if we're crying or laughing.  Glad you have Mr. Freeze,

jeri

True say Jeri- I have numerous frogs in my past-

Blair, Your knight in shining armour isn't riding a white horse- he IS the white horse. Keep your chin up- you will be just fine. Hugs licks slobbers and leans.  Mel and Loki.

 

He is my other eyes that can see above the clouds;
my other ears that hear above the winds.
He is the part of me that can reach out into the sea.

He has told me a thousand times over that I am his reason
for being by the way he rests against my leg;
by the way he thumps his tail at my smallest smile;
by the way he shows his hurt when I leave without taking

him.
(I think it makes him sick with worry when he is not
along to care for me.)

When I am wrong, he is delighted to forgive.
When I am angry, he clowns to make me smile.
When I am happy, he is joy unbounded.

When I am a fool, he ignores it.
When I succeed, he brags.

Without him, I am only another man. With him, I am all-powerful.

He is loyalty itself. He has taught me the meaning of devotion.

With him, I know a secret comfort and a private peace.
He has brought me understanding where before I was ignorant.

His head on my knee can heal my human hurts.
His presence by my side is protection against my fears of dark and
unknown things.

He has promised to wait for me...whenever...wherever--
in case I need him.
And I expect I will--as I always have.

Thank you all, I just love this group of people!!!! The harest thing about this is I lost an awesome friend I had for a year and half. Someone I would talk to everyday about how my day was about all the good and bad things. He was the first person I went to when I needed someone to talk too, he was always there for me. Now he is gone and I have no one to talk to. He really meant so much to me

 

Blair

Blair,

People come into our lives for a reason but instead of being a victim of this experience realize it makes us stronger.  Don't be negative but know how much you have grown from it.  Adversity makes us stronger and instead of feeling bad about it know what it has done is to open up new doors for something of more quality in your life,

jeri

I am just amaized that EVERYONE in the world doesn't get what a dog can give.