12 Steps Of A Sponsor
I will not help you stay and wallow in limbo.
I will help you to grow, to become more productive
by your definition.
I will help you become more autonomous, more
loving of yourself. More excited, less sensitive, more
free to continue becoming the authority for your own
I cannot give you dreams or "fix you up" simply
because I cannot.
I cannot give you growth or grow for you. You must
grow yourself by facing reality, grim as it may be at times.
I cannot take away loneliness or pain.
I cannot sense your world for you; evaluate your
goals for you, or tell you what is the best for you in
your world, for you have your own world.
I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choice
of choosing scary uncertainty of growing over the safe
misery of not growing.
I want to be with you and know you as a rich and
GROWING friend; yet I cannot get close to you when
YOU choose not to grow.
When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I
begin to loose trust in you, then I am toxic and bad,
inhibiting for you and you for ME.
You must know - my helping is conditional; I will
be with you, I will hang in there with you, as long as
I continue to get even the slightest hints that you are
willing and still trying to grow.
If you can accept all of this, then perhaps we can
help each other to become what God meant us to be-
mature adults, leaving childishness forever to the little
Shared with Love, Libertybear
Hugs and Prayers, Libertybear777
"Change is what happens when the pain of holding
on becomes greater than the fear of Letting Go