Thank you so much trouble for taking the time to respond and for posting the amazing picture and words.
i empathise with you over your girls self harming as my eldest did that during the recovery from the breakdown. i am a suvivor of abuse... she needs to find the right help and her own coping mechanism to regain her personal power.
As for losing a son i can only begin to imagine what that must be like... it is what i fear.
i wish you and yours love and healing to give you strength and to enhance your personal powers on the road to full recovery from your experiences.
best wishes
moonie ((((((((hugs))))))