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dev thank you for that response. It made a lot of sense. You are right, i have to know what is i want from that experience. And i am working on defining that for myself daily. Asking questions or simply observing others discuss things are some of the ways i am doing this. You also said something that rang true, which was the awareness of possible downfall. I am very aware now of what the potentional downfalls exist in humiliation (or any play) and also the factors that contribute to such an unfortunate and potentionally harmful experience. And as you said not knowing what you want or where your limits, insecurities lie, or even doing it with someone you dont know and trust can all contribute to whether you have a good experience with humiliation or not.
I know now i need the trust before anything else happens. I need to know that i will be cared for as i push limits and experiment in new areas. And as you pointed out in your relationship, open and honest communication has allowed you and your Dominant to both get the most from the exchanges you share together. That's so important.
As i was writing that post i was thinking up some of my own answers. Part of that is knowing what i want and dont want from any kind of shared Ds experience. This will translate to all forms play and even down to all the ways i would like to submit someday. Going into something with no idea what you want out of it or even if what you are offered is what you truly want, need or require as a submissive is counter-productive to both P/people. But again, i had to experience the not so good parts to really learn and understand what will work better for me later on.
thanks so much sis for sharing your experience and what you have learned. It was tremendously helpful and enlightening. And agreed on the bloody sexy part. =P |
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