sydney -So the emotions take over while rational behavior takes a back seat

sydney -Circumstance I think plays a large part on how jealousy manifests within a psyche

sydney -the person I was with was unfaithful and lied about his unfaithfulness for a very long time.

dev - For myself, i dont often feel jealous so much. I do feel possessive however. I think the two are maybe different sides of the same coin.

dev -Watching someone else try their luck with what i would consider mine is kind of an aphrodisiac for me. There's a lovely pang that seems to feed the possessive little creature inside me and enough trust in my relationship to keep it on the fun side of play.

dev -Another fun relationship ended for me eventually because of jealousy oddly enough...or my lack of it.

dev -i'd liken it to the difference between someone admiring my necklace and me offering to lend it to them as opposed to trying to slip it from my neck when i'm not looking

dev -There have been times and will continue to be times where for reasons that honestly probably have more to do with my own insecurities than anything else, i will slip into the less than pretty side of jealous.

Shifting Wind -First off, I’ve learned that jealousy is a waste of emotional energy that, left unchecked, can become debilitating. Rather than being a singular emotion, it is a collection of emotions �?fear, anger, hurt, etc. The intensity of these feelings are the culmination of distortions in how I perceive Myself and the conditions of My life.

Shifting Wind -Beyond the feelings of anger, hurt, and fear I have felt a sense of injustice, betrayal, and the impotence of “how could you!�?BR>
Shifting Wind -The most significant episode of jealousy in My life was brought on by an incident of infidelity by My former spouse.

Shifting Wind -The sense or feeling of betrayal was a combination of hurt, fear, and anger �?all of which I truly did not deserve. These feelings were reasonable based on the actions of My former spouse. What became unreasonable, destructive, and a waste was how these feelings overwhelmed My daily living. Of course these feelings were fed by My investment in the act of her betrayal which was at times all consuming. It was like being in the middle of the deep end of the pool and not being able to grab hold of the ladder or sides �?just a constant attempt to keep My head above water. My self esteem was definitely affected, My sense of worth as well as what direction to take in My life.

Shifting Wind -One mistake I made was to give My spouse more understanding than I gave Myself. This was self-defeating in that it required Me to look at things through the distorted perceptions of her eyes, about Me, the conditions of our life together, and the expectations I placed on Myself. The lesson learned was that I am a very understanding human being but it does not mean that I must tolerate or accept things that erode My quality of life.

faith -you see jealousy can bring so much pain, that a person can really get more sicker..it is a feeling that i dont ever want to deal with again..i was never a jealous type, i was care free and happy, but things in life can bring so much pain when you dont expect it, and cause a wave of anger and sorrow..

Sir Ulrich -I've long realized that I'm not the jealous type; I just can't be bothered with that expenditure of emotion over someone who appears not to value what We share.

Sir Ulrich -My mom never cared much for cooking, but on Saturdays she liked having croissants or sticky buns with eggs and bacon, and coffee. So one of us, usually my sister (she was the only girl?) would get to eat with her. My brother and I could come down later and have cereal. Jealous? Yeah, that made me jealous, because my sister got to enjoy not only the food but my mother's time, and boy I wanted to change that.

Sir Ulrich -I learned that we don't treat everyone the same, no matter what familial words are wrapped around it; yes, parents have a favorite, and on any given day you may or may not be it. So wasting my time and energy on jealousy was just that, a waste.

Sir Ulrich -So we grow and learn from these experiences, we add to the satchel that each of us carries, and I sense that those of us with the least heavy satchel once we reach Judgement Day, will be rewarded, by and by. I trust those I'm in relationship with until they give me a reason not to. Then I act accordingly.

rose -In my early conversations with Maitre, He asked me if i was a jealous person, and i honestly said : not really, but i might get jealous of the time You don't spend with me.

rose -When i am thousands of miles away i am more prompt to go to the wrong conclusions : Maitre is online and not paying attention to me : surely He is talking to someone else ! one overlooks His team playing on the TV... Him finishing that work... His ex on the phone... The green eyed monster does that.

rose -Some people don't have that ability to let go and not act on it, the ones that makes you dismayed and prompted your interest for the topic of jealousy as i understood.