Hello, Lolita. I quit smoking and my husband didn't. He still smokes and in the house. I've been quit for over 3 1/2 years now.
The fact is that my staying quit has to do with my desire to be free; it is not dependent on his or anyone else's behavior. A couple of weeks into my quit I came upon an opened pack of his cigarettes. Was I tempted? Yes. The reality is that early in my quit I wanted to smoke a cigarette lots of times when he and his cigarettes were not around, too. What stopped me from taking one from that opened pack is the fact that I quit and I wanted to stay quit. I learned at Whyquit.com about my addiction. I learned that one puff would undo all my hard work and I would need to quit again and go through withdrawal again.
I came to realize that in the past I had used his smoking or co-workers smoking or having a drink or being stressed as excuses to relapse. Part of the recovery process is learning to not make excuses anymore. Is it hard initially? Yes, it is. However, the reality is that it gets easier. The cravings decrease, the temptations fade. It becomes automatic when the thought of a cigarette enters your head to think, "No. I am choosing to remain free." You reach a place of comfort and the thought of risking that comfort for a cigarette holds no appeal.
Here is some interesting reading for you. You can do it, Lolita.
Regards,
Parker - 45 months, 34,475 cigarettes not purchased, not smoked, not missed
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