Lucinda,

   First of all congratulations to you for having givien up nicotine and tobacco.  It is not unusual for us, when we quit to look immediately to share what we have found with others.  In fact it is fairly consistent.  We have discovered something, like a child in an easter egg hunt, and we want to let everyone know about it.  On the one hand because we are proud of ourselves but on the other to let others know that the key that they have so long been seeking, to overcome their addiction, is so obvious - It has always been right in front of us.  (The "I found my glasses - They were on top of my head." kind of obvious.)

 

  Don't be surprised if others don't want to believe or even to listen to what , for you, is now so simple and obvious.  To quit smoking, you have to quit smoking and remain committed to that goal.  In other words "Never take another puff."  You must also never substitute.  Taking nicotine by any delivery method will likely bring you back to your delivery method of choice - smoking or chewing tobacco.

 

  Your father already knows the secret to quitting tobacco and nicotine - It is the same method he used to quit alcohol.  He never took another drink of it.  People who are looking for a pain free, thoughtless approach by taking some pill, accupuncture, hypnotism, patch, gum, nasal srpay, inhaler or losenge or now even a vaccine, may unfortuantely, take that wait with them to an early grave.  The shortest path to you goal is always straight ahead - First your mind must be made up that your goal is to quit.  Once you decide to quit, no circumstance or person will sway your decision, or your father's, to remain nicotine free.

 

   For anyone to quit they only must do one thing, stop smoking. But it helps a great deal if they recognize their addiction to nicotine and then to overcome all of the denial and justifications that they use to continue to inhale burning tobacco for the nicotine it contains.  I hope that you continue to read at www.whyquit.com and that you father understands that those who overcome any addiction do it the same way.  No matter what the substance is, it requires complete abstininence.

 

Reading this may help.  Lies we tell ourselves to justify smoking.

Joseph

Nicotine free for 14 months