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General : It was just too easy to quit View All Messages
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From: Joel  (Original Message)Sent: 12/15/2005 10:12 PM

Hello again Joel,

Thank you so much for your quick response. Your devotion and energy are admirable!

I hope you don’t mind me sharing my story with you. If you wish to post my letter on the message board I would only like to ask you to use my nickname Angie, instead of my real name.

A couple of months ago, on a Friday I thought maybe it was a time for me to quit, so I searched the web and found your site, it transformed my mere though for quitting into a determination. The next two days I smoked, but was disgusted by each cigarette I lit up.

So, on Monday I quit. It was too easy, no withdrawal symptoms, no desire to smoke. I started eating junk food during the day, but that was more because I thought I should, not that I really needed anything to replace the cigarettes. I know that, because 20 days later I started smoking again and now I am at 2 or 3 cigarettes in the morning and maybe 1 or 2 at night and I don’t need anything during the day, neither food nor cigarettes. After I started smoking again I promised myself that I would at least smoke when I really want to, and put out each cigarette I realize I did not enjoy. This was not a plan, but a temporary "solution" until I discover the "right" way for me.

Everybody knows that it is only a matter of time to increase that number and on top of that the studies have shown that a couple of cigarettes a day are almost as equally dangerous to a woman’s health as a whole pack. So here I am again.

I know I can quit, because I really want to. It is not as hard for me to do things or imagine myself doing things without smoking, because I have always been able to see myself through the eyes of my family (none of them ever smoked) and even despised myself a little. I also have very fond memories from the years prior to my "smoking career" and it is comforting to think I am "re-living" something from these years.

I just need to have some questions answered �?/FONT> for myself and for my beloved husband.

I have recognized the first problem �?/FONT> my impatience, and I am working on a strategy for that battle.

The second problem is a little harder to define and pinpoint. My husband smokes. He is anything but uneducated, even in the field of psychology and the "benefits" that come along with the smoking addiction.

And yet, he smokes. I am so concerned for his emotional and physical health, that I have no idea how to handle myself. I think that it is extremely and equally important for him to quit, to keep his weight or loose some (medical reasons) as well as not lose his self-respect. I can’t bare the thought to watch him kill himself and the only way for me not to go crazy is to throw myself into the same denial. Junky thinking or constant trigger �?/FONT> how do I get over it. I can’t watch him and just think he does it because he has to and I don’t, I experience way too powerful emotions for that. Also, I am terrified he could get cancer sooner if he quits than if he doesn’t.

I don’t know.

I would very much appreciate your thoughts!

Thank you again,

Angie.



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     re: It was just too easy to quit   Joel  12/15/2005 10:19 PM
     re: It was just too easy to quit   Joel  12/15/2005 10:34 PM
     re: It was just too easy to quit   Joel  12/15/2005 10:38 PM
     re: It was just too easy to quit   Joel  12/15/2005 10:41 PM
     re: It was just too easy to quit   Joel  12/15/2005 10:50 PM
     re: It was just too easy to quit   MSN NicknameElevenPinkFlowers  12/16/2005 1:22 PM
     re: It was just too easy to quit   MSN NicknameStarshinegrl-Gold  12/16/2005 2:16 PM
     re: It was just too easy to quit   MSN Nickname_forza-d-animo_  12/17/2005 4:08 AM