Dear Joel,
I am at my wits end. My boy friend has promised for a year that he was going to quit smoking. He has lied about how much he had been smoking. Example: When he was smoking three packs a day, he said he was smoking two, when he was smoking two packs, he said he was smoking one.
The first par to fApril 2005...last year! He said, "I can quit, a
piece of cake!" You and I both know that to quit, a person hsa to
really want to quit, QUITS. That's my way of thinking. I quit 31 years ago in the middle of a pack.
You know how it goes, folks think it must have been easy because I did it. DUH!
Notice I am very upset. I have TRIED to be supportive but after hearing all the "I have cut down to a half of a pack"...then later, "less than a pack".....
I am VERY ALLERGIC to even the SMELL of cigarette smoke. This whole situation is ruining our relationship. I have been so disgusted with the lies about quiting. When he said he really "cut down when you weren't nagging me"...
I became very angry. WHAT am I supposed to do when all I hear is.."i am tapering down, Am I supposed to smile and be happy to hear more
lies? " I, personally don't believe a person can "taper down."
Maybe some can..but not a REALLY ADDICTIVE person. He has to have one the VERY FIRST THING in the morning...after every meal and BETWEEN all meals. Any stressful situations makes him smoke more!
Yep, I think I may be turning into a real "Bad word"....I have never
been so angry about something that involves me with another person.
It is OUR relationship, sure...but it is his Health..and MINE! If
he doesn't care about his,
I care about MINE! His Mom has had cancer. He will be 62 in May.
Has a terrible cough. Never goes to a doctor.
DO you get many emails like mine?
I wonder what folks do when they stay this upset? I WISH we could get started on a plan...One where he SHOWS he is trying to quit..I see his efforts and can be supportive.
Piece of cake. Right?
I wish.
THANKS for reading my long email.
Hystericallyi yours,
Belle
COLD TURKEY...grrrrr WOULD you believe THAT?
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